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wnylib

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24. Very true. I was once married to a malignant narcissist.

Wed Nov 13, 2024, 11:52 PM

Nov 13

He enjoyed using psychological, financial, and physical abuse to own and control me. For him, it was all about asserting his self image and authority rights as a man. He enjoyed the sense of power that it gave him.

When, with the help of friends, I successfully got out of the marriage and evaded his attempts to kill me for leaving, he decompensated completely. He spiralled downward into heavy drug use and died a few years later. I did not mourn when I got the news.

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This is odd for me, but things are so bizarre, it is hard to even know what to say about it. [View all] NewHendoLib Nov 13 OP

Our Caligula needs daily entertainment dalton99a Nov 13 #1

i too have thought he was closer to Caligula MadameButterfly Nov 14 #41

He takes any slight personal to the extreme BOSSHOG Nov 13 #2

Yup. Trumo is not just any type of narcissist. wnylib Nov 13 #21

Don't the Germans have a word for it? DENVERPOPS Nov 14 #49

You are refering to schadenfreude. wnylib Nov 14 #54

Thank you! DENVERPOPS Nov 14 #55

You can't make sense of bat shit crazy. Phoenix61 Nov 13 #3

No, last time there were actual professionals trying MadameButterfly Nov 14 #42

Agreed. yellow dahlia Nov 13 #4

I often feel like I imagine Joe did in the June debate LSparkle Nov 13 #23

Thank you for saying that. niyad Nov 14 #46

How about DENVERPOPS Nov 14 #50

All those things. yellow dahlia Nov 14 #70

Welcome to our DU family. niyad Nov 14 #44

Thank you. yellow dahlia Nov 14 #69

That it is. It has been my family for nearly 22 years! niyad Nov 14 #71

It is all very surreal. I actually felt that were were going to lose the top spot CentralMass Nov 13 #5

Donnie (and the GOP) have never gotten over the fact that Blue_Tires Nov 13 #6

Oh yes, beyond bizarre. I'm toying with drinking hard alcoholic beverages. MerryBlooms Nov 13 #7

Beyond toying here MadameButterfly Nov 14 #43

"I keep wondering what his goal is..." J_William_Ryan Nov 13 #8

One of the cultists was just on Lawrence O'Donnell's show. Jeebo Nov 13 #13

So never wrong, he will order to nuke a hurricane... Justice matters. Nov 13 #25

Uhm ... Seinan Sensei Nov 14 #27

Because he Faux pas Nov 13 #9

I can relate. Woodwizard Nov 13 #10

About his cabinet picks, it is clear that he wants them all to be as ignorant GoodRaisin Nov 13 #11

He's chosen people who have contempt for the depts ... LSparkle Nov 14 #28

Something tells me Defense Dept guy got eased out of the service Captain Zero Nov 14 #35

You fire generals when you need the military to be loyal to you GoodRaisin Nov 14 #58

I believe he is planning to never leave office. Lonestarblue Nov 14 #59

He's too ignorant to understand ignorance. MadameButterfly Nov 14 #45

You aren't alone! Diamond_Dog Nov 13 #12

Recommended. H2O Man Nov 13 #14

He keeps doing what I expected him to do but MadameButterfly Nov 14 #47

I get it blogslug Nov 13 #15

I think it's like the violent partner in a domestic abuse situation Dan Nov 13 #16

Very true. I was once married to a malignant narcissist. wnylib Nov 13 #24

Congratulations On Your Loss SoCalDavidS Nov 13 #26

Thank you. I am an old woman now. It was 50 years ago wnylib Nov 14 #37

Their are men that make you ashamed of being a man. Dan Nov 14 #56

Thanks. I had help from people, both men and women, in getting wnylib Nov 14 #57

He'll use these carnival barkers to deflect attention from the plundering of the Treasury blm Nov 13 #17

+1 dalton99a Nov 13 #19

Psychosis is the explanation that works for me. 3Hotdogs Nov 13 #18

It feels like some kind of bad joke, a bad dream. Elessar Zappa Nov 13 #20

He is diagnosed as a malignant narcissist or psychopath. kerry-is-my-prez Nov 13 #22

Agree completely. Speaking from experience as wnylib Nov 14 #33

Psychopathy is really a more extreme diagnosis, worse than narcissism. kerry-is-my-prez Nov 14 #64

I've been following Dr. Ramani Durvasula wnylib Nov 14 #67

he's the living embodiment of a troll ecstatic Nov 14 #29

Someone above mentioned Caligula... I second that thought. slightlv Nov 14 #30

Same here ReRe Nov 14 #31

It was probably Putin-planned. usonian Nov 14 #39

A Fox "News" personality for Sec Def??? BobTheSubgenius Nov 14 #32

Yeah. How 'bout THAT one, 'eh? calimary Nov 14 #38

Sadism littlemissmartypants Nov 14 #34

A psychopath often has sadistic qualities kerry-is-my-prez Nov 14 #63

Why are you telling me? littlemissmartypants Nov 14 #66

I feel you. But really, you pretty much just said it. dchill Nov 14 #36

It's his nature and that of all bullies to push limits beyond the extreme usonian Nov 14 #40

Putin wants to destroy this Country KS Toronado Nov 14 #48

He's in a spiteful baby "owning the libs" phase. hay rick Nov 14 #51

He is very vindictive and cruel. lucca18 Nov 14 #52

It's a fricken reality show. poli-junkie Nov 14 #53

Replies to posts too Mike 03 Nov 14 #60

Everything stems from his gigantic but fragile ego Martin Eden Nov 14 #61

The US Treasury haan't been drained yet Ruby the Liberal Nov 14 #62

I do a lot of deleting these days. Write, edit, rewrite -- delete. Hekate Nov 14 #65

It looks like a SNL skit. Unfortunately, it is not. patricia92243 Nov 14 #68