Feminism and Diversity
Related: About this forumRapper Too Short gives disgusting advice.
Then apologizes.
http://madamenoire.com/136469/too-short-gives-disgusting-fatherly-advice-about-girls-to-middle-school-boys/
Hip-hop news website XXL.com recently posted a video of rapper Too $hort offering so-called "fatherly advice" to teenage boys about talking to girls. You know, when to hold hands, when to call, what to get them for their birthday haha, no, just kidding, he was giving them tips on how to "finger" their dates. What, your father didn't teach you that stuff?
XXL has since removed the clip, but Madame Noire wrote down some of the rapper's wisdom:
"When you get to late middle school, early high school and you start feeling a certain way about the girls
I'm gonna tell you a couple tricks. This is what you do, man. A lot of the boys are going to be running around trying to get kisses from the girls, we're going way past that. I'm taking you to the hole.
There's a general area down there, a little spot that girls have that feels really good to them. Don't kiss them down there yet, that's later in life. But this is what you do. You push her up against the wall or pull her up against you while you lean on the wall and you take your finger and put a little spit on it and you stick your finger in her underwear and you rub it on there and watch what happens. It's like magic. You gotta find her spot, they all have a different one, but it's somewhere in there. Just go for it. When you feel like it becomes a little more moist that's when you know you're doing it right."
While Too $hort's advice could have been way more misogynistic at least the "I'm A Player" rapper was focusing on female pleasure rather than scoring BJs or how to get out of using condoms few found his message empowering. XXL Editor-in-Chief Vanessa Satten, who claimed she hadn't approved the video before it was posted, said she was "truly offended," and, naturally, it was only a matter of time before Too $hort apologized via a number of vague tweets about "giving back to the community":
The way he put it isn't the classiest, but who else is teaching them about female pleasure? Certainly not abstinence plus programs. Misguided, yes, but better than most representations of sexuality in the American media.
Texasgal
(17,148 posts)not the part about female pleasure.
This is what shocked me: "You push her up against the wall"
obamanut2012
(27,755 posts)obamanut2012
(27,755 posts)Sex doesn't have to be all sweetness and lights and fluffy bunnies and scented candles (I really have no idea why I just mentioned bunnies). It is whatever you deem appropriate for yourself, BUT, at the core of there, I think there has to be self-respect, and well as a certain amount of respect for your partner ie it has to be totally consensual. BDSM relationships, for example, have this, whereas many "normal" relationships, or even just "normal" sexual encounters, don't.
Which leads me to thinking about posting about Chris Brown's latest criminal escapade... while still on felony probation.
Texasgal
(17,148 posts)do we really need a rapper to tell young men how to understand female sex?
It's all kind of disgusting to me.
obamanut2012
(27,755 posts)Which is actually the main point, isn't it?
Texasgal
(17,148 posts)I was disgusted by the whole article. The guy seems like a pig to me.