hugs to all grieving on this New Day

[markie]

I'm so lost...

I always told my husband if something happened to him, I would just go live in the woods... I know I will not live in the woods forever, I will find community again, however... I know he would want me taking this year to go back to the Appalachian Trail to find my way... he moved mountains (figuratively) to make it possible for me to hike wherever and whenever I wanted while he was able. I remember the first time I started; he drove me up to the parking lot just north of Springer, waited while I hiked to Springer and then back... he sat in the car to kiss me goodbye, said it was too cold for him to get out

"You raise up so I can stand on Mountains"

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[GPV]

1. I'm so very sorry! I don't have a long trail in me, but I understand the drive to go into the woods.

I hope you find what you need out there.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. Thank you for your beautiful words and the beautiful song by Josh Groban, my dear markie...

To be able to post so much loveliness in the midst of your grief means a lot. Hugs to you! May this new year bring you more comfort than the old year did.

My deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved husband...

[Walleye]

3. I broke down this morning. First time in a while, missing my mom and my boyfriend.Gone too long

Very tough day, and the isolation and uncertainty and anxiety are getting hard to deal with. Dark and rainy and foggy today that never helps. Good luck with your journey and you totally have my sympathy

[femmedem]

4. I walked a local trail every day for a year after my fiance died. This was decades ago.

Somehow it helped to see the trail in every kind of weather: sunny, warm, windy, rain, snow. It steadied me. Especially when the weather was bad, I'd focus on caterpillars taking such a long time to cross a path or birds huddled in the cold. It taught me that all living creatures--animals and plants--have their struggles, that there was nothing unique or unfair about mine or my fiance's.

I remember that it was hard to have casual conversations with people. It was as if I was looking at them from behind blurry glass or from underwater. We were existing in different worlds.

You sound as if you are an experienced hiker and won't take chances. Maybe this is just what you need. But I worry that if you are alone for that long, you won't have anyone to turn to and your sadness might deepen. Again, I don't know you and we are all different. But back when I was lost, nearly suicidal, and reading everything I could get my hands on about bereavement, I read that in that first brutal year of grief, people usually shouldn't make major changes in their lives.

I hope that if you take a year to hike, that you will emerge feeling confident in your own abilities, connected to the larger rhythms of life and death, that you'll have the flexibility to come back home if things start to go awry, and that you will feel connected to him and feel your beloved everywhere, as I did, even in the air that you breathe, which contains molecules that once were part of him.

Much love to you. It will get better. You are in the very worst of it now. I promise it will get better.

[LoisB]

5. Lovely tribute to your husband. I am very sorry for your loss. Keep hiking, it will get better.