Mom died March 1. Today, I got the Medicare summary
Her last day cost over $14,000, but we're only on the hook for $1736 (probably less, since her supplemental plan hasn't reported yet).
This should feel like a relief to know, but somehow it isn't. All her other affairs have been settled. I guess it's just the finality hitting.
Don't need advice, just needed to tell someone.
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Healing vibes on the way to your heart. 
Our relationship was complicated, especially the past 15 years or so as I became the caretaker and she resented giving up control. She became both demanding and dependent; I have vowed never to make my kids feel the way she made me feel at times.
And my eyes are leaking at the warmth you all are providing this grey Saturday. Thank you so much 
I am so very sorry for your loss and the pain you are feeling. I hope you can take some comfort from loving memories.
These things do have a way of hitting you all of a sudden. I’ve been there. Here’s a hug.
I'm so glad things worked out for you in the end.
My dad was in insurance and left mom comfortable ( he died in 1980) and her second husband was both well-off and a bit of a miser, so money was not an issue for her (he passed in '13). We raised 4 kids on a single salary and then were self employed for some scary times...I know the fears of unexpected health issues. 
I posted this thread to get me out of my own head as much as anything and it has succeeded. Thank you for sharing.
I extend to you my condolences on the passing of your mother. May memories of her eventually bring you peace and comfort.
With deepest sympathy,
MIButterfly
You were always the dutiful daughter giving your all and hope it all works out with the last of the odds and ends. I know when my mom passed, her Medicare and FEHB BCBS covered everything but the couple days she was in a hospice ($500/day that I picked up).
And yeah there comes that point when the finality hits (although in my family's case, it took about a year to get her house ready for sale and finally sold - thankfully she had paid off the mortgage 40 years earlier and fortunately she was lucid enough to sign off on a check for what would be her final estate taxes). With my sisters and I, it was a team effort with each taking on a critical part of the process, but we got it done and I know you will too.
Since she was in assisted living, her estate was liquid for those most part (5 different banks across two counties, two insurance companies and 32 small shares of stock...sounds like more than it ended up being) and it's mostly done. It the emptiness, the time I am no longer spending taking care, that seems...almost confusing. Now what do I do? Yeah, that is coming together, but it still isn't quite natural feeling, if that makes sense. And once in a while, it hits like it was yesterday.
We all love you.
My Mom died this past January. It had been a long time coming but it still hit like a ton of bricks, and we're still going through some of her financials. The process sucks so make sure you make time to take care of yourself.
Be very kind and forgiving to yourself, as you are to others. It's a big page to turn when a parent passes.
I still 'talk' to my husband and to my mom. Don't know if they get the messages, but it helps me to keep a little conversation going.
Sending strength and a offer to listen to you. Old, but I still have broad shoulders and they absorb tears well.
