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Heddi

(18,312 posts)
Mon Aug 17, 2015, 09:07 PM Aug 2015

What I learned on DU today

Ugly people and hookers cannot be sexually assaulted.

Sexual assault is worse if you look like a "charmer," a "sweet girl," or a "lovely person."

If you look like a hooker then...hey...all bets are off.

what's next...you can't thread a moving needle? Can't rape the unwilling? How can a hooker be raped when she gives it away all day long? etc etc.

If a man typed that, however the Sisters of the Perpetually Outraged would be on that like flies on shit. A woman says it and...crickets.

sickening shit here these days, folks.

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What I learned on DU today (Original Post) Heddi Aug 2015 OP
Wow. Damn. I've heard it before but it never gets easier. Solly Mack Aug 2015 #1
Men say it to give their brothers permission Warpy Aug 2015 #2
Yep. Solly Mack Aug 2015 #4
One of the worst parts Heddi Aug 2015 #3
Bubbles are fun to play with but I see no advantage to living in one. Solly Mack Aug 2015 #5
I am sorry you came to hear this. Behind the Aegis Aug 2015 #6
It kinda gets me, every time I saw news on that Trainwreck shooter... uriel1972 Aug 2015 #7
No, you're not alone. mr blur Aug 2015 #8

Solly Mack

(93,116 posts)
1. Wow. Damn. I've heard it before but it never gets easier.
Mon Aug 17, 2015, 09:25 PM
Aug 2015

I just don't understand that thinking.

Warpy

(113,131 posts)
2. Men say it to give their brothers permission
Mon Aug 17, 2015, 09:37 PM
Aug 2015

Women say it because they want to believe it can't happen to them.

Both are dead wrong.

Solly Mack

(93,116 posts)
4. Yep.
Mon Aug 17, 2015, 09:45 PM
Aug 2015

I had a 19 years old tell me how it couldn't possibly happen to her because she was a good girl.

Heddi

(18,312 posts)
3. One of the worst parts
Mon Aug 17, 2015, 09:44 PM
Aug 2015

Is that it came from a woman who admits to being old enough to know better

Solly Mack

(93,116 posts)
5. Bubbles are fun to play with but I see no advantage to living in one.
Mon Aug 17, 2015, 09:51 PM
Aug 2015

Look at all the evidence you've have to deny to believe like that.

Sickening.

Behind the Aegis

(54,914 posts)
6. I am sorry you came to hear this.
Mon Aug 17, 2015, 11:32 PM
Aug 2015

The "ugly" thing is new. But, I have heard here that men can't be raped by women, and my "favorite" (heavy ) is that gay/bi men cannot be raped, except by heterosexual men, and even then it is questionable as to if it is actually rape. Those claims were also made by women. I have seen one male make a similar comment about gay men eons ago (DU2), but I can't remember who, but I do think he was banned before DU3, which means he could be back.

As for rape against sex workers, sadly, I have seen both men and women make those comments here (and other allegedly liberal/progressive) sites. Much less common, and I can only remember a few instances, and usually the reaction was brutal, were a few who didn't think spouses could be raped.

(PS, I also think you meant to say others were claiming "Can't rape the willing?", not "unwilling".)

uriel1972

(4,261 posts)
7. It kinda gets me, every time I saw news on that Trainwreck shooter...
Tue Aug 18, 2015, 04:17 AM
Aug 2015

We were told how special and gifted the victims were.
All the time I was wondering, what if they weren't so special?
Do we mourn them less?
Were there lives less worthy?
Should the shooter get less jail time if they weren't pretty/smart?
Am I alone in this?

 

mr blur

(7,753 posts)
8. No, you're not alone.
Tue Aug 18, 2015, 05:08 AM
Aug 2015

Even the church shooting (which was, of course, appalling) was made to seem worse because the victims were praying and 'worshipping'. So what? Would it have been less obscene if they'd been playing cards? Watching a porn movie?

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