Used rightly, anger can be your friend.
If you recognize it, name it, acknowledge it, befriend it and really get to know it well, you can use it wisely and channel the energy and motivation to make needed changes or, in an emergency, move mountains.
It's only if you deny it and pretend it doesn't exist that it will express itself in ugly, passive aggressive ways, or if you treat it like your enemy that it will tie you down and wear you down.
Ugly changes at one part-time job first came as a sneak attack, kick in the gut. Then I recovered from the initial kick, and now my anger at the attack is motivating me to look for other part time work. I decided to look for lab work at every hospital within a 1 hour drive. However, I'm still working on my anger at what was done to me my first year at the lab where I work. It came back to life because now I'm wondering how I will answer for why I haven't been hired where I'm at, when they hired St. Adam and St. Gail last year. If I explain that I was set up by a co-walker to be stalked and harassed by a brain-damaged, alcoholic janitor with a track record of harassment, that really will not go over well and they won't consider me. If I tell them that the lab preferred to replace the porn addict with another man, that also won't go over well. I need some short, simple and understandable statement about why I wasn't offered employment by that lab, or if I was offered it, why I turned it down. Sadly, the lab is considered the bottom of the barrel. If they fire you, you're done in these parts. They didn't fire me, but they also didn't offer employment to me. I need to tell them something....I'm trusting the universe to give me an answer if and when the time comes...in the meantime, I'm angered to find myself even in this predicament of not my own making. 