Anybody dealing with 19yo son issues during the quarantine?
Any advice?
He was with his girlfriend pretty much the first wk of the college shutdown with the exception of going to work, a few meals, and sleeping. Now we're 2 wks into a shelter-at-home order, and he vacillates between grumpy, silent, talkative, and invisible.
I told him I know it's not easy. He wants to be with his GF and her family. Hell, I really like her and would like to have her over for dinner, to have a game night, etc. It's not easy for us either - none of us have had to ever do anything like this before, but we're safe, in our average sized home, with an array of food available, parents who are working 40hrs/wk from home, and staying safe now means that we are keeping others safe as well. Out of the two families, the most high risk is his girlfriend (asthma, diabetes, bariatric patient, and on immune suppressing meds), myself (diabetes and HBP), and her grandfather (83yo in a wheelchair).
I guess I'm having a pity party for myself tonight with the stress, Mr. Vacillating Grumpypants, working full days doing stuff I'm not 100% sure of how to do, and having to deal with a fussy geriatric dog who thinks I exist to feed her treats 24/7.
I just want things to be back to normal.
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Honestly those sound like the 4 phases of teenagers in general.
When I was 19, if I was in that situation ... I'd have been mostly bummed out cause I'z out of weed ... just sayin 
We live about 5 min. from campus (bought him a car instead of dumping money into dorm/food). Since that is where hubby and I both work, both kids are lucky enough to be graduating with no undergraduate debt. His sister realizes that is a gift, him -- not so much. The Univ is totally physically closed and like all other colleges, the rest of the semester and summer sessions will all be on line. Even his work (Jos. A Banks) is closed down until the shelter-in-place order is over (estimating May 15, but Gov. Carney may extend that). To top all that off, he's supposed to go on a cruise with his GF and her family in August to the Bahamas. Not sure that's going to happen.
I've tried telling him "we want you with us because we love you and want to know that you're safe", and "if something were to happen to your father or I, we would want you to be here with your sister", plus the "this is important to your GF as well". She was in the hospital several times last year due to asthma and breathing related issues.
My daughter (26yo) informed me that boys brains don't approach full maturity until they're around 21 or 22. That may even be a stretch for some guys that I know. 
This is such a hard time for teenagers. My kiddo is almost 15. No girlfriend yet, thankfully. Not having the structure of real school has been a huge challenge. My son is a really good student but not having the regular school day schedule has thrown him off. My neighbors across the street have 3 boys...ages 16, 17 and 19. All have girlfriends and it’s been a struggle for them to keep the kids apart...as a result, I have kept my son away from their boys because of the girlfriend thing...but even that has worn thin because I got home from work the other day and the whole lot of them were playing basketball in the street...like 12 kids! Sigh. I’ve tossed all screen time limits out the window because my son is an only child...no sibs to hang with and at least he and his friends can be together in a virtual reality. I’ve got nothing of substance to offer, only empathy. These are hard days to be sure. 
Ultimately, though, he's an adult and will do what he wants. I say keep him at home as long as you're able.
