Pro-Choice doesn't mean....

[Kees]

This discussion thread was locked as off-topic by uppityperson (a host of the Pro-Choice group).

I am the mother of a 19 year old daughter, that through irresponsible behavior and being 'in love' is 4 days away from aborting an 8-09 week fetus. The gravity of the situation is weighing heavily on her shoulders and she feels this is the right option for her at this time.

I am pro-choice and will fight tooth and nail for every woman's own reproductive rights.

But I would be a hypocrite if I said this didn't hurt like hell...Pro-choice does not equate to pro-abortion....

[LeftyMom]

1. You should support your daughter and not post judgmental crap on the internet.

Nineteen year olds, whether "in love" or in love or just in lust, have sex.

[pangaia]

3. Judgemental crap?

Isn't that a bit....strong?

[LeftyMom]

4. I thought it was being fairly generous.

If you're hurt by an adult having a minor outpatient gynecological procedure, the problem isn't the procedure.

[Tumbulu]

12. Your post is cruel and I again ask

that you remove it.

[LeftyMom]

13. No.

[Tumbulu]

16. Revealing more of your golden heart

Full of love for all of us to appreciate and treasure.

[CreekDog]

7. why aren't you scolding the OP

the OP posted that her daughter was irresponsible and was going to have an abortion.

the person you responded to criticized what the OP posted.

the OP posted about her daughter who didn't ask to be a part of this or the public's conversation.

sounds like you are confused.

[Tumbulu]

10. A mom on DU cannot come here for support

in a hard time?

Hoping that when you need sympathy, support, and a kind word, that you get the support you ask for, and not mean snide retorts.

[Tumbulu]

9. Full of loving kindness and support

I turn to you oh LeftyMom! For you show to us all the way a democrat expresses care, concern, solidarity and kindness at times of critical need. Showing us that a liberal chat board is chock full of caring supportive friends.

Please delete your post.

[LeftyMom]

11. Shouldn't we demand care, compassion and kindness for the woman undergoing the procedure?

I really don't have patience for people who slut shame their own daughters, and I can't imagine why any decent person would.

edit: And this is the Pro-Choice group. Not the soft-pedaled anti-abortion sentiment group.

[Tumbulu]

14. Oh wise and wonderful LeftyMom

Who can read between an anxious mothers lines and determine that the mom is slut shaming her daughter!!!!!! Oh my oh no how could she for shame!!!!!!

Oh brilliant psychic LeftyMom we depend upon you to tell us these things that we would never know without your perceptive gaze.

[LeftyMom]

15. Are you done yet?

[Tumbulu]

17. Just getting going my DU friend.

[awoke_in_2003]

21. I wish you were "getting going". nt

[elleng]

2. Exactly.

Best wishes to you and your daughter.

[on point]

5. No one volunteers for it. But personal choice is needed

And a libertarian position now that I think of it

[MsTanja]

6. Pro-choice does not mean the decision is easy

My heart breaks for you and your daughter, this is a difficult time you both are going through.

Pro-choice does not mean this is an easy decision or the only option ever considered.

Pro-choice, however, does means that neither I nor anyone else has the right to stick my nose into you or your daughter's business and make this decision for her based on prejudice, beliefs, or assumptions that are not part of her world or life. Pro-choice means your daughter makes the best decision for herself and she is very lucky to have a supportive mother, who may or may not agree with the decision but is still able to love and respect that decision.

When I made that decision 15 years ago, I didn't tell anyone because I knew there would not be any support from anyone in my life. It didn't change my mind - it was the right decision then and I will always look back without regret, but some support would have been helpful.

She's very lucky to have you in her life.

~T

[Whoa_Nelly]

8. She's an adult. Support her 100%

When my son turned 18, I told him every decision would be his alone, and that I would always be behind him 100%.
17 years later, it has made all the difference.
It's her life. Just be there.

[Tumbulu]

18. Sending supportive thoughts to all

of you during this emotionally difficult time.

[cinnabonbon]

19. I really hope that the procedure goes smoothly

and that your daughter recovers from this quickly, considering that it's hurting you both right now. It's never easy.

That said, I would have been horrified if I found out my mother shared something so personal about me on a website and called me irresponsible in my difficult time. Perhaps, in the future, her sex life won't be discussed here without her being the one instigating it.

[SunSeeker]

20. Your daughter needs your support, not your judgment.

I would be horrified if my mom posted something like this. I bet if you were more supportive, her decision would not be "weighing" so "heavily on her shoulders."

[uppityperson]

22. Locking as does not meet SOP of this Group.

Statement of Purpose

A place for like-minded progressive individuals, to collaborate on ideas to protect the right of every woman to make personal reproductive health decisions and choices.