Everything is piling up all at once and it's so depressing

[MIButterfly]

I don't even know where to start. My best friend is a lost cause. It turns out you can know somebody practically your whole life and not know them at all. I feel like I'm going through the five stages of grief. There's something wrong with my healthy cat who's lost four pounds and developed a heart murmur since last year so I'm worrying about both of them day and night. I had an infection in my tooth which I had fixed by an endodontist in April but neither Medicare nor my supplemental insurance covered any part if it because it's considered "restorative" or some damn thing so I'm on the hook for $2250.00. Then I have to worry about the damn Republicans cutting Social Security and Medicare and then what will I do? Hurry up and die? I'm not ready to go yet. My TV, phone and internet are out but my house is a mess and I have absolutely no energy to clean it so the repair guy can come. I got an appointment to talk to a counselor but it's a video appointment which I don't want but that's what my doctor put in for so I'm stuck with it. God forbid I have any kind of choice. Whenever I call a business or service place or even the doctor's office, I have to speak to the AI bot or whatever the fuck it is and answer 20 questions before I can get to a real person, who, outside of the doctor's office, has an accent so thick I have no idea what they're saying, stressing me out even further.

And don't get me started on DJT and the idiocy and outrageousness du jour. It's neverending, day after day after day.

It's all so overwhelming. It's life, but I'm not coping very well. I don't feel hopeless; I know eventually it'll pass (except for the frustration of calling anyone) but for right now, all I want to do is sit here and cry.

Thank you for allowing me to vent without fear of judgment. It really does help to get it all out.

[niyad]

1. Holding you in light and love. huggggggggs, and pets for your girls.

[bsiebs]

2. Wow.. hang in there...

... all of these things start to look like a lot... but in the end it generally works out.

Sending you some positive vibes.

[lindalou65]

3. Everything is piling up....

Dear MIButterfly,

Sending positive thoughts your way. I have days like what you are feeling today sometimes too so I can relate.

We're all in this together. Take care

[irisblue]

4. I am right there by your side.

[Sector 001]

5. You are doing better than I am.

You have Medicare, they discontinued my medical over four months ago. I am a diabetic with no medication now.

It is impossible to connect with a live person on the phone.

[BeneteauBum]

6. Venting is healthy especially when you have friends who understand

One day at a time Butterfly. Make each day special in spite of the hardship……..treat yourself to something special…..a good book, visiting a friend or favorite place, or perhaps a scoop of your favorite ice cream. As a boomer, I can relate to the unexpected pressure that this administration has subjected us to. Just parse it out, get one issue fixed at a time and soon they won’t seem so overwhelming.

Peace ☮️

[LilElf70]

7. I'm with ya......

I just went through a ton of shit too. Mostly health issues, that will take months to resolve. And damn, twice now I went in for a minor thing, and turned into 2 additional procedures/tests, that turned into issues. I was hit with about 4 issues to start the year, and now have 8, and most of them won't be resolved until the end of the year. Keeping up with all this shit, is exhausting. I'm hoping 2027 will be much better for me.

I look at it this way.

No matter how bad you think life has been, there's always someone that has it worse. It's kinda puts things in perspective for me. Shit happens. Even more often as you hit 65 on up.

Buckle up cowboy. It might be a rough road ahead. I try to take it one day at a time, and hope for the best. I attempt to make it a point that every time I go out in public, to make someone smile, or laugh. It's actually kinda fun. I highly recommend it.

What's next for me? A colonoscopy Monday, which makes for an eventful 4th weekend. Oh boy, I can't wait. To think that the cost is about 4600, just pisses me off to no end that they can get by with this overpriced bullshit.

Vision issues will be addressed late July. And I can't remember how many things that are going down in August.

Chit happens.

Rant over. Sorry.

It will get better. Hang in there.

[SusieCreamcheese]

8. Try this.

Hi MIButterfly,
I was in similar circumstances and found that doing at least ONE thing each day to address the clutter did so much to alleviate my anxiety and sense of being overwhelmed. I kept a daily diary of the things that I accomplished, even if it was just taking out the garbage or cleaning the toilet! I could look back on the diary and see what I'd done and feel good about it! I began "digging out" about 6 months ago and two weeks ago hosted some of my musician friends for a jam session! It's an ongoing effort battling the depression caused by internal and external forces. Every morning I fight to get up rather than stay huddled in the fetal position. It's a fight, but I can sincerely say that it's always worth the effort to carry on. Perseverance furthers. All my best!

[mwmisses4289]

9. First, a gentle 🫂 to you and yours.

Next, go cry if you want to. If it comes out in great, tearing sobs, that's okay. Scream, punch or kick pillows, whatever helps you vent. A quiet walk, a good book, curl up with the kitties and a glass or cup of your favorite beverage.
It's awful how it seems everything falls apart at once. Everything seems to want your attention right fucking now when there isn't any to spare. Take it one thing at a time, and tell everything else to wait your turn.
Another gentle 🫂 to you.

[cate94]

10. It's hard sometimes.

I know. I hope things get better for you soon.

[Skittles]

11. hey, schedule that repair guy now

I KNOW THE FEELING that everything needs to be spic and span before strangers come over but it ain't so - as long as you don't have spoiled food everywhere and feces smeared on the walls it will be OK - just tell the repair person sorry about the clutter but you've been overwhelmed lately, they'll get it.

So sad about your friend but at this point you must do what is best for YOU, you've done your best.

For the bill, pay what you can each month, even if it's just a little.

It is indeed tough times right now but, stick with us, we're in this together and we WILL survive.

[Tree Lady]

12. One hour at a time and deep breathing

I am having a long recovery from hip fracture. I am almost 5 months in with leg spasms and other stuff. I have gone through fear, frustration, etc as before that I was walking miles per day, hiking, yoga and more.

Like you I have a cat 16 yrs old that was peeing in house so we thought UTI, found out it's her kidneys and old age.

My hubby has a lot of pain from arthritis in his neck, dental issues, we have no insurance for the dental part.

So I get all you are saying. The things I use to do walk, hike, yoga to calm me down I can't do so you do what you can. I float and walk in the pool, I take daily long baths, read a lot, and taking a zoom class twice a week on mindfulness.

As far as your friend, my older daughter who is so loving and kind, got talked into being a republican 5 yrs ago by her boyfriend and others at work. In order to stay close we don't talk about it but it's so hard to see her change over the years. She never was prejudice against minorities I didn't raise them that way but I hear her make little comments about different races now. Last week she eloped with boyfriend because she knew no one in family liked the maga dude. So I feel your pain.

Find something, anything you enjoy and do that. Try to soothe your soul that is hurting.

[Upthevibe]

13. MIButterfly ..............

I am so sorry you're going through this.

It absolutely helps to vent and IMHO this is a good place to do so.