I got the CAT scan and the bone scan

[cyclonefence]

last week, and I saw a plastic surgeon. My original plan was to have a mastectomy with no reconstruction, mostly because I'm an old lady and didn't want one floppy original breast and one pert fake breast. But my oncologist suggested I think about a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction, and out of love for my husband, I decided to do that, despite my dislike of the idea of implants. My husband fully supported my no reconstruction--he is truly on my side in this--but I know he will be uncomfortable with a flat, scarred chest on one side. We have a shamefully active sex life, and his comfort is important to me.

And I do like the idea of having both breasts removed, not worrying about another recurrence.

So that's where I am now. Surgery is scheduled for the 23rd. Next week I have final appointments with the surgeon, plastic surgeon and the hospital. I think I've had all the tests I can get, and I'm ready to get this over with.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. All my best wishes to you!

I think it's to your credit to be thinking so clearly.

Best of luck as you proceed through the steps that will keep you well!

[murielm99]

2. Thanks for sharing this.

Good luck with your surgery and the recovery.

[Ohiogal]

3. Dear Cyclonefence

I went through what you are going through 11 years ago. Congratulations for making it this far, it takes lots of bravery, and lots of support from your doctor's and especially your mate. Sounds like you're doing great in that regard!

I think you'll be glad that you chose the reconstruction. I did, as well, although mine doesn't use implants. They can actually reduce and lift your remaining breast to match your new one, they did that for me. You can hardly tell the difference.

It's worth it not to have to fuss with inserts for bras and bathing suits, etc. I'm a dedicated lap swimmer and found the inserts to be bothersome.

Again, there's no one right way for every woman. We should all be allowed to choose what's right for us.

I'm wishing all the best for you in regards to your surgery! It will all be behind you before you know it.

And, feel free to IM me if you ever feel the need for a shoulder to lean on, I think it helps so much to connect with someone who's been through it. If not, no problem. Again, here's hoping for a fast and smooth recovery!

Best,

Ohiogal

[LoisB]

4. All the best to you. Sounds as if you have a wonderful husband.

[sinkingfeeling]

5. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

[Staph]

6. Never be ashamed of an active sex life! ;-)

I was diagnosed and treated for endometrial cancer five years ago. One of the good things (yes, there are good consequences of cancer) is that life becomes more. More real, more alive. Small things, like autumn colors and children's giggles are richer and lovelier. If you can keep a positive attitude (and it sounds like your husband is going to be a great support!), life can be wonderful!

I'm often told how brave I am, how cheerful I am. I can't change the cancer. I can't stop it, though I'm fighting it with every tool in the doctors' toolkit. What I can change is what I do with the rest of my life. You go, gurl!