It's enough to drive you nuts
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Everyone has an opinion on my health. Not so much here at DU, where at least in these forums everyone's tolerant and accepting of taking it day by day but keeping an eye on it, but among friends and family and ex-family and...
From the hospice nurse, she's convinced I won't be around 6+ months from now. I give her some credence because she's seen my condition in others other times, and maybe she's a straight-shooter, but it threw us for a loop. Up until now, no one wanted to to give me an expiration date... Now everyone's fixated on it.
From my ex-wife, who has her own medical (and other) issues, who insists if I just put totally healthy food in my body and maybe smoke the right kind of therapeutic cannabis, I can put this into remission (I have stage IV cancer, already spread to lungs and adrenals, and not sure where else (no scans for nearly a year) then I can live another 20 years...
To one of my car mechanics, who relates a story he heard from a "close friend" or something who tried some particular vitamin and it made him cancer free.... he's good with my old british car, but I'm not so sure about my current American body condition.
It seems <whining> that people that don't know the health condition status are just convinced that if I just tried this vitamin or that berry then everything will be okay. How do they know? I've seen the scans and stuff. I don't want to disbelieve, but I don't really believe any of that stuff is going to buy me remission - they'll only buy me the mental image of potential remission.</whining> And I don't want to say it doesn't work for anyone, just that I think I'm personally past the point where eating the right vegetable is going to fix me. Maybe if I ate the right vegetables 40 years ago, but not now.
What also pisses me off <pissoff> is people who post on goFundMe - and I don't know of anyone here, and if so, I would evaluate that separately - but say "Oh, I have stage 0 cancer and can you fund a trip to this spa in Italy that will make me better?". I mean, c'mon. </pissoff>
Anyway, that's my rant for today.
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If it helps, do it!
It could be that all these good people are trying to help, and at the same time, they're trying to keep from regretting not having said "something" that might have helped you. You know, if only I had said such and such!
They want to know that EVERY stone has been turned over so that you didn't miss any possible treatments.
You didn't.
Take care of yourself, and that includes the mental!
I'd call, but I need to keep the phone line open for Verizon. My email's not working and it's complicated. They promised to call........sometime in the next couple of hours, today or tomorrow.
Oddly enough, I avoided fried foods most of my adult life figuring they were a health risk. Now that I don't need to worry about food's influence (although I still try to eat healthily) the one time I give myself permission to have salami or onion rings or something decadant is finally at a point where I can't tolerate it anyway 
I wouldn't say no to a cheesecake, though.
I'd rather the straight up than the "I know someone who knows someone who did this..." positive spin that helps the person telling the story feel better about it all.
That said, I don't want anyone fixated on a date either. Even if I have only 6 months, I'd rather try and live those months than for people to sit around ticking off my time.
When I was first diagnosed I had to remind a few people that I was still me and to stop with the long faces and hushed tones.
just thinking it was part of the process, but magically now everyone (and not that I'm not appreciative) wants to travel to my door even though I'm not on my deathbed (but that's what people think). And frankly I'm thankfully people even care to do that much.
I'm still pretty damn functional. Not as much as a year ago, but still functional. I can drive, go to the store, take the trash out, fix the furnace (today's project - still smelling of diesel fuel) and so forth. Not as fast as before - it's clear I'm slowing down - but neither am I keeling over tomorrow, AFAIK.
