UPDATE on elder son: First day was freshmen orientation and
went pretty well. The class size is larger than his entire former elementary school, but 3 other classmates came along with him and he knows and is friends with some upper classamen from our town.
Unfortunately, the next two days did not go as well. He refused to go buy lunch and came home very hungry and grumpy. I think he was overwhelmed because all the rest of the students were now there, and the cafeteria is loud and the line is long. And of course there is always that awful sense of self-consciousness that seems to accompany being in a school caf for some reason. 
The new plan will be to make sandwiches so he has a lunch, and if he ever feels up to getting hot lunch, he can save the cold one for a snack later. The question is whether or not it will fit in his backpack. (The school does not use lockers.)
And we just found out today he was mistakenly put in the wrong level of one of his classes, and it's going to screw up his schedule putting him in the correct one. Cross your fingers that the transition period is a short one, and that his schedule can be fixed!
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will be ok from bullying. He's pretty socially adept and has a few friends already for a support group.
I sent him to school with a sandwich. We'll see how that goes. It had to be a toasted bread sandwich. Not sure how it held up and if he will still eat it once it is cold. 
(Actually, he wanted it for breakfast when it was still warm. LOL)
My A/S son is 22 now and you are bringing back many memories, mostly good, but equally difficult for my son, and of course the parents always feel worse. Hang in there, you'll make it through alright.
I love my son, and I will stick by him however much it takes, however long it takes. He'll need some support the rest of his life, but as long as I'm around he'll get it. 
dry, rote schoolwork will never be on the front burner - that didn't ever change much with my son.
My son had a gift for either forgetting assignments, losing them, just not telling us about them, etc. He really has no time for organized activities, unless he's the one organizing, and as such he loses the rest of the team.
It's a unique experience, that's for sure. But there is also a lot of love. It all evens out.
prides himself on his intellect, so that really keeps him motivated. It's also why he is yea close to making Eagle Scout. 
Younger son, not so much. He is ADHD and mostly all he wants to do is play video games. And as for being organized, just not gonna happen. But even so, he is doing all right in school.
are going.