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bif

(24,002 posts)
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 10:29 AM Feb 2022

Well, my wife went out of town for 5 days and I was tempted

to do some drinking. It was way in the back of my mind. However, I decided to cook some gross food like potato pancakes, get some carry out, and watch a bunch of movies instead. I made it the whole time without having a single sip of booze!

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Well, my wife went out of town for 5 days and I was tempted (Original Post) bif Feb 2022 OP
Congratulations,bif! WhiteTara Feb 2022 #1
Very nice! bif Feb 2022 #4
Yay... you can always get cholesterol medicine !!! Karadeniz Feb 2022 #2
Good job! 👏 Walleye Feb 2022 #3
Don't know if you can't drink or just prefer not to. But a breakout drinking foray usually ends in dem4decades Feb 2022 #5
I quit about 3 1/2 years ago. bif Feb 2022 #18
Mine too! 2008 and still dry. tazkcmo Feb 2022 #45
You did something really important on several levels. Irish_Dem Feb 2022 #6
Way to go!! It, and you, matters. Guilded Lilly Feb 2022 #7
Thank you for sharing your important victory with us. niyad Feb 2022 #8
... llashram Feb 2022 #9
Well done wryter2000 Feb 2022 #10
Congrats! My Dad had stayed sober "one day at a time" for 43 years when he died in '03. nt Atticus Feb 2022 #11
And that is how it's done, one day at a time. Great job! onecaliberal Feb 2022 #12
Well done! c-rational Feb 2022 #13
Good for you nt XanaDUer2 Feb 2022 #14
A very healthy thing to do Farmer-Rick Feb 2022 #15
Friend of Bill W here orangecrush Feb 2022 #16
Well said. Rhiannon12866 Feb 2022 #43
Very cool! orangecrush Feb 2022 #46
Congratulations wendyb-NC Feb 2022 #17
That is great! gademocrat7 Feb 2022 #19
Good for you! CaptainTruth Feb 2022 #20
Great IbogaProject Feb 2022 #21
Well Done!!!!! kozar Feb 2022 #22
Post removed Post removed Feb 2022 #23
Is that what you wanted to do? DownriverDem Feb 2022 #24
Seriously? bif Feb 2022 #28
This message was self-deleted by its author Iggo Feb 2022 #29
Not to be an asshole or anything, but... bif Feb 2022 #30
On second thought, I'll let bif speak for bif. Iggo Feb 2022 #31
well done. barbtries Feb 2022 #25
Oh man, home made potato pancakes. gab13by13 Feb 2022 #26
Good discipline. Iggo Feb 2022 #27
This friend of billh58 Feb 2022 #32
Nicely done bif! Permanut Feb 2022 #33
+1 orangecrush Feb 2022 #47
Ya gotta do what ya gotta do! sdfernando Feb 2022 #34
Well Played! BadGimp Feb 2022 #35
Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! USALiberal Feb 2022 #36
Who's a good boi?! Attaway❣👍 ☮ sprinkleeninow Feb 2022 #37
It been in the back of my mind for 15 years. DEbluedude Feb 2022 #38
Time Does Dim the Desire Camaromjr Feb 2022 #39
Good for you, too!! ailsagirl Feb 2022 #42
YAAAAAAAYYYYY!!! calimary Feb 2022 #40
Good for you!!!! ailsagirl Feb 2022 #41
Well done and thanks for sharing. A drink never makes anything better. Rhiannon12866 Feb 2022 #44
I was never a big potato pancake fan, but love latkes. By the way, PatrickforB Feb 2022 #48
WELL DONE! RevBrotherThomas Feb 2022 #49

WhiteTara

(30,166 posts)
1. Congratulations,bif!
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 10:38 AM
Feb 2022

Now you know you don't need a caretaker to make sure you are true to yourself. Congratulations, you are stronger today.

This reminds me of the Buddhist story about a teacher who gives 3 students a chicken each and tells them to go kill the chicken where no one can see. The first student goes out behind the barn, looks to see if anyone else is there and kills his chicken. The second one goes to the woods to a secluded place behind trees and kills the chicken. The third one brings it back to the teacher and says, I couldn't do it. Everywhere I went, the chicken could see.

bif

(24,002 posts)
4. Very nice!
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 10:45 AM
Feb 2022

Buddhism is the one religion I can believe in. When I walk down the street, I actually look down to make sure I don't step on ants. No one else would know I killed an ant. But I would.

dem4decades

(11,913 posts)
5. Don't know if you can't drink or just prefer not to. But a breakout drinking foray usually ends in
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 10:45 AM
Feb 2022

a headache.

I know.

bif

(24,002 posts)
18. I quit about 3 1/2 years ago.
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 11:50 AM
Feb 2022

My life has significantly improved since then. I'll have an occasional sip of my wife's wine. but have haven't really had a drink since then.

tazkcmo

(7,419 posts)
45. Mine too! 2008 and still dry.
Mon Feb 21, 2022, 06:13 AM
Feb 2022

Suddenly, I have money! Also, I quit fishing. Turns out that fishing, for me anyway, is very boring when I'm sober.

Congratulations and continued success!

Irish_Dem

(57,541 posts)
6. You did something really important on several levels.
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 10:46 AM
Feb 2022

1. You maintained your sobriety.

2. You demonstrated that your power is from within yourself.
Not outside. Like the previous poster stated.

In psychology, this is a very important concept, called internal locus of control. It signifies that a person is mature, advanced and high functioning.

Farmer-Rick

(11,407 posts)
15. A very healthy thing to do
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 11:38 AM
Feb 2022

I don't have any problems with drinking. It's just that alcoholism runs in my very Irish family. So I always watch myself. And turns out according to this recent study it can lead to happiness in old age.

"Watch your drinking. Alcohol abuse is strongly correlated with smoking in the Harvard study, but plenty of other research shows that even by itself, it is one of the most powerful predictors of winding up sad-sick. If you have any indication of problem drinking in your life, get help now. If you have drinking problems in your family, do not take your chances: Keep that switch turned off. Although forgoing alcohol can be difficult, you’ll never be sorry you made this decision."

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/02/happiness-age-investment/622818/

Here's hoping you have a long happy life.

orangecrush

(21,796 posts)
16. Friend of Bill W here
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 11:43 AM
Feb 2022

Just went through some stupid drama, myself, that 7 years ago I would have handled by drinking myself into a stupor.

It's called, "I'll show you, I'll hurt me".

Now, instead I'm like, " OK, this sucks, I'm angry, hurt, and feel powerless, but if I drink it will still be there when I sober up, only worse, and my problems will rapidly multiply.."

Since anything I do will be wrong, I withdraw, and trust the wisdom of divine intelligence, and wait for something positive to fill the void that was created.

Congratulations!


Rhiannon12866

(222,216 posts)
43. Well said.
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 11:52 PM
Feb 2022

And same here, sober since April 30, 2009. Just went to an unusual meeting tonight. My regular meeting wasn't being held, the chairman couldn't make it, so I went with a friend to the closest meeting to me. What made it unusual was that it wasn't held in a church basement or Sunday School room, but in an actual church itself since that was apparently the area that was heated. And the topic was appropriate, it was humor in sobriety.

Response to bif (Original post)

Response to DownriverDem (Reply #24)

gab13by13

(25,257 posts)
26. Oh man, home made potato pancakes.
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 01:01 PM
Feb 2022

I love them but I want to stay at 173 for the winter and when I eat them it takes a couple of days to get back down.

Permanut

(6,639 posts)
33. Nicely done bif!
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 03:23 PM
Feb 2022

27 years sober here, and no longer tempted. I know every day that I can't go back though.

DEbluedude

(826 posts)
38. It been in the back of my mind for 15 years.
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 06:49 PM
Feb 2022

I do what you did. ANYTHING, but drink. There's nothing out there for people like us, NOT A THING, that will be made better by taking a drink.

Congrats!

Camaromjr

(43 posts)
39. Time Does Dim the Desire
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 07:36 PM
Feb 2022

I've some ~35 years of sobriety. It becomes easier and the reward is in every day when you wake up.

Rhiannon12866

(222,216 posts)
44. Well done and thanks for sharing. A drink never makes anything better.
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 11:59 PM
Feb 2022

And you did what's helped me from the beginning, "move a muscle, change a thought." I learned to distract myself and that still works for me, even after more than 12 years.

PatrickforB

(15,109 posts)
48. I was never a big potato pancake fan, but love latkes. By the way,
Mon Feb 21, 2022, 10:17 AM
Feb 2022

resisting the urge to drink when you were alone is a major accomplishment.

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