My alcoholic son tells me AA condones drinking for pain relief.

[rzemanfl]

That sure as hell is news to me and I've been sober for 35 years. I am certain he is bullshitting me. He is using a herniated disk as an excuse for relapsing. If I'm wrong, please correct me.

[JDC]

1. Lol. He is Dead Wrong

Edit*

You are right, your so. Is BS'ing you.


Sorry, I laughed and responded to the AA part. It literally made me Laugh out loud.

[Eliot Rosewater]

2. You are not wrong...at all

Pain killers would be dangerous also for an alcoholic, of course.

But no, AA never says you can drink.

[rzemanfl]

12. I broke my kneecap ten years after I got sober.

The doctor was amazed that the pain killers he prescribed kept me awake. I had to stop taking them and put up with the pain.

"AA never says you can drink" is what I remember. God Bless you Mr. Rosewater.

[TygrBright]

3. Go with your gut.

Sounds like first-growth, dyed-in-the-wool bullshit to me.

People with an active alcohol addiction can be remarkably creative with bullshit.

skeptically,
Bright

P.S. If you want to know "what AA says" you can order a Big Book from their online site. It's excellent reading.

[rzemanfl]

13. I have a big book, autographed by the people I was in treatment with in 1985,

like it was a high school year book.

[Shibainu]

4. News to me

I will have thirty six years sober on 28th of October

[rzemanfl]

11. I won't hit 36 until next year.

I haven't been to a meeting since 1996, which is why I asked if there was some big change, although the bullshit smell was strong.

[dlk]

5. Alcoholics are known for stretching the truth

This sounds like a rationalization to drink.

[KY_EnviroGuy]

6. Absolute bullshit. AA does not "condone" drinking for any reason. However....

the only requirement for membership is the desire to stop drinking. Been in many, many meetings with guys wet as a dishrag with booze and that's OK so long as they behave and have that desire.

A couple of the very worst ones I sponsored were shaking so bad in my car I had to stop a buy them a half-pint to get them home or to a treatment center. But, those were very rare and unusual and done out of desperation and compassion. Most times, something sweet will stop minor shakes.

It is also AA tradition to defer to the medical profession's decisions regarding health issues. AA is no one's doctor. It's your son's choice what he takes for pain relief and AA has nothing to do with that.

In my 30 years, we've seen many, many false rumors about AA and we just disregard and trudge on.....

[Mountain Mule]

7. AA most emphatically does NOT condone drinking for any reason

including pain - be it physical or emotional. Your son is just bs-ing you, I'm sorry to say. I have been going to AA for 20 years now, so I understand AA's program of recovery pretty well.

Does your son have an AA sponsor?

[rzemanfl]

9. He had a sponsor. I don't think he does anymore. But he lies, so who knows? n/t

[Mountain Mule]

15. Yeah, sponsors get in the way of drinking

Have you considered going to alanon? They can be very helpful for family members of alcoholics. They won't tell you how to sober up your son, but they will support you in your own recovery from codependency. I am so sorry you are having to go through this.

[rzemanfl]

17. I have thought about alanon, but the plague has made us

agoraphobic.

[cally]

18. Many meetings online now

I often attend meetings in other parts of the country if I can’t find online meeting near me.

[rzemanfl]

19. Thanks, I will look into that. n/t

[kozar]

8. I am in a very good rehab right now,

We are blessed with good insurance, I can say, you are correct!

2 weeks down, miss you all, im feeling very good!



Koz

[applegrove]

10. Don't let him drink.

[rzemanfl]

14. I don't but he does. n/t

[applegrove]

16. Vibes to you both.