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bif

(23,971 posts)
Sat Oct 10, 2020, 08:27 PM Oct 2020

Rough night last night.

We had friends over for dinner. Sitting out on the patio on a warm night really made me want to have some wine along with everyone else. I've been clean for two years now, and I haven't had any major urges in a while. Then I thought how the evening would have progressed in the past. I would have gotten buzzed. Then, after our friends left and my wife went to bed, I would continue drinking until I got super hammered and would pass out in front of the tv. So instead, I did the dishes and cleaned the kitchen while they were outside. I came out and sat with them from time to time, figuring they really wouldn't notice I wasn't there. And the conversations were somewhat wine fueled, which can be pretty boring if you're not drinking. So I got through it unscathed. Whew!

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Rough night last night. (Original Post) bif Oct 2020 OP
Good on you, Babe. Zoonart Oct 2020 #1
Good. Playing that tape works well if you do it. You did. Eliot Rosewater Oct 2020 #2
That is awesome! cayugafalls Oct 2020 #3
Well done.. Permanut Oct 2020 #4
I know what you mean. peacebuzzard Oct 2020 #5
I've never been around people drinking much until a couple of months ago jmbar2 Oct 2020 #6
Good for you. Dyedinthewoolliberal Oct 2020 #7
Good job. It's not easy, but so worth it. JDC Oct 2020 #8
I glad for you, it takes such strength to turn away from an addiction, my 42bambi Oct 2020 #9
Good on you! 3catwoman3 Oct 2020 #10
Good job. We're proud of you. Doreen Oct 2020 #11
Awesome, sometimes it's so hard... Jack-o-Lantern Oct 2020 #12
Strength and honor. WheelWalker Oct 2020 #13
Sounds like a gathering with my in-laws. And I usually visit them so I can't drink! Bummer. George II Oct 2020 #14
Good for you seta1950 Oct 2020 #15
Another Victory! Turbineguy Oct 2020 #16
"conversations were somewhat wine fueled, which can be pretty boring if you're not drinking" Worried2020 Oct 2020 #17
Thanks all for your words of encouragement! bif Oct 2020 #18
One day at a time DoBotherMe Oct 2020 #19
Good on you! BadGimp Oct 2020 #20
Thank You for Your Post & What You Wrote, "So I got through it unscathed. Whew!" Stuart G Oct 2020 #21

peacebuzzard

(5,266 posts)
5. I know what you mean.
Sat Oct 10, 2020, 08:36 PM
Oct 2020

I shy away from most group circumstances involving cocktails. Or even dinners with wine. The conversations never seem to be very interesting.

Congratulations on your present life!

jmbar2

(6,088 posts)
6. I've never been around people drinking much until a couple of months ago
Sat Oct 10, 2020, 08:39 PM
Oct 2020

I stayed with some folks who drank wine every day. They got tipsy, but not necessarily drunk. Just talked louder and louder, got cranked up--every evening. If it was a bad day, they commiserated; if it was a good day, they celebrated with wine. Every evening.

After a few evenings of it, it got pretty boring. I wondered if that was normal behavior for the wine drinking class.

Your post suggests I am not alone - thanks.



Congrats for keeping it together.

Dyedinthewoolliberal

(15,909 posts)
7. Good for you.
Sat Oct 10, 2020, 08:39 PM
Oct 2020

I'm in a 12 step program. Not had a drink in almost 17 years. Do you have anyone you can call in case things get, you know, weird? Sometimes talking with someone else helps those feelings pass.

JDC

(10,486 posts)
8. Good job. It's not easy, but so worth it.
Sat Oct 10, 2020, 08:40 PM
Oct 2020

Those conversations become even more boring over time - at least in my experience.

42bambi

(1,753 posts)
9. I glad for you, it takes such strength to turn away from an addiction, my
Sat Oct 10, 2020, 09:04 PM
Oct 2020

hubby couldn't -- he now has end stage liver disease. It's a sad time in our home these days, so I was happy to read that you did something so great, and not just for you, but for your loved ones as well.

Worried2020

(444 posts)
17. "conversations were somewhat wine fueled, which can be pretty boring if you're not drinking"
Sun Oct 11, 2020, 01:28 AM
Oct 2020

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Yeah - I get that. I drink alot, but I just sorta sip all day, never really getting a "buzz", but my friends all seem to wanna "catch up" and drink what I drink in a day within a couple of hours.

I'm the same with weed (it's legal here ya know ) - just a puff or two now and then, not bowl after bowl, joint after joint to the point where ur train of thought keeps getting derailed . . .

Anyhoo - congrats on your success with the "battle"





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DoBotherMe

(2,350 posts)
19. One day at a time
Sun Oct 11, 2020, 12:59 PM
Oct 2020

You did the next right thing, doing the dishes. It gets easier. 24 years sober here and no regrets.

Stuart G

(38,726 posts)
21. Thank You for Your Post & What You Wrote, "So I got through it unscathed. Whew!"
Sun Oct 11, 2020, 05:18 PM
Oct 2020

Seven great words, " So I got through it unscathed. Whew"

Thank You for sharing this story with us.

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