The False Tropes About Rape We Must Destroy

[niyad]

The False Tropes About Rape We Must Destroy
5/9/2023 by Amy L. Bernstein

Update May 9, 2023, at 12:22 p.m. PT: The jury has returned a verdict in the E. Jean Carroll / Donald Trump battery (rape) and defamation case: The jury found Trump liable for sexual abuse of Carroll, as well as defamation, but not for rape. In total, Trump is ordered to pay Carroll about $5 million.



E. Jean Carroll arrives for her civil trial against former President Donald Trump at Manhattan Federal Court on May 9, 2023, in New York City. Carroll has testified that she was raped by Trump, giving details about the alleged attack in the mid-1990s. (Spencer Platt / Getty Images)

E. Jean Carroll is technically the plaintiff in her civil rape trial against Donald J. Trump. But in terms of spectacle, she has arguably been forced into the role of defendant: Every thought, every choice she makes, and has made, over decades has been parsed for intentionality, for hidden meanings and veiled beliefs. Carroll has been asked to defend her existence existentially—given that her reality as a functioning human being has been so broadly called into question. Carroll is being put through all that for a crime she did not commit, but which was committed UPON her. Her painful, and now painfully public, memories of being raped are as difficult to hear and read about as every other rape case. This never gets easier, even after woeful repetitions throughout the #MeToo era.

It is absolutely past time to bury, once and for all, the false tropes about rape that still color judicial proceedings and certain courts of public opinion. Three tropes in particular stand out in the Carroll trial. The first is that there is a script for how women are expected to respond physically to rape, and anything reported that’s not in the script somehow doesn’t count. Carroll physically fought her rapist by kneeing him, among other things. But that doesn’t let her off the hook of responsibility. No, we cannot call “scene” until the woman has screamed. Not a quiet, strangled scream, but a loud, blood-curdling one that surely would be heard for miles. As Carroll said, in an instantly classic line, “You can’t beat up on me for not screaming.” Oh, but we can. The script calls for it.

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The second trope that needs to die is the notion that a woman who’s been raped who remains silent—whether for an hour or three decades—has decided (a) nothing bad happened; or (b) he didn’t mean to hurt me; or (c) if I keep it to myself, I’ll forget it ever happened. This is all very convenient logic and for the most part, totally baseless. Countless studies and books by Alexandra Brodsky and others highlight many more honest reasons why women do not report sexual assault or rape. A traumatic experience like rape affects memory and the brain in ways non-victims may not understand or be able to anticipate. But I especially want to call your attention to a federal research study conducted in the dark ages of rape culture—1979. The U.S. Department of Justice conducted a study on why women do not report sexual assault. The reason reported over and over was fear: of police and the court system; of retaliation; of not being believed; of being blamed; of becoming isolated, and more.
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The third trope that’s demonstrably harmful is the idea that police officers are knights in shining armor, itching to rescue any damsel in distress. According to the Journal of Interpersonal Violence, one in five cases reported to police are deemed baseless (by police) and therefore coded as “unfounded.” No wonder, then, that hundreds of thousands of rape kits sit untested in police department and crime lab storage facilities across the country. What we have here is a tragic chicken-and-egg situation. Women vastly underreport sexual assaults and rapes to police because they are convinced they will not be believed. And police, for their part, are chronically skeptical of women who do report, or try to. More training may help, but cultural tropes are notoriously hard to kill.

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To this day, women like E. Jean Carroll still endure a death of sorts with every question that seeks to put them in the wrong, for years on end, stretching into forever. We’ve got to stop behaving like this.

https://msmagazine.com/2023/05/09/e-jean-carroll-rape-trump/

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. This is a terrific article; a must-read! Not long, but very clear about things that hurt. nt

[solara]

2. Excellent article and absolutely right on!, however

I would like to add just one more trope.

The idea that rape happens because the perp is "Sexually Attracted" to his victim - or, is going after her because she is "His Type"..is an extremely harmful, hateful and, frankly, old idea that has, for years and especially lately been perpetrated as some kind of "truth" Even when trump thought Ms. Carroll was his wife Marla, (while with actual wife at the time, Ivana looking over his shoulder)

Rape and sexual assault in whatever form, are not about sexual pleasure, or sexual infatuation.. Rape is a crime of violence. Rape is only about proving "masculine" power & superiority,. It's about anger, resentment, jealousy, assault, domination, intimidation, humiliation, invasion, revenge, hostility, sadism, spite, cruelty and/or putting the victim in their "place"

There is nothing even remotely 'romantic' about it.. So when the twice impeached, disgraced, indicted, guilty perp of sexual assault, lying loser of an ex-president said something like "She's not my type" in reference to E. Jean Carroll.. I still haven't heard anyone push back on his stupid, shallow, ignorant & savage statement.

Of course I could be wrong.