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Related: About this forumPushing 600 responses for dating a celeb, but I have a different take...
on it. I feel a little creepy fantasizing about some woman I've never met and know nothing about.
OTOH, I know a lot about the characters actresses create, and they are designed to be hot, or not. And they have, by nature, an intimacy with us-- a lot more so than the actresses themselves.
My perfect woman will have an excellent moral compass and capability for loyalty, be intelligent, educated and accomplished, an offbeat sense of humor, and be "giving" when necessary. Among a few other things, but you get the idea.
So, off the top of my head...
Cam, in "Bones"-- the other two are played to be the hot ones, but Cam is the interesting one.
Maura Isles in "Rizzoli and Isles" No sense of humor, but her adorable geekness makes up for it.
Beckett in "Castle"
Dr. Dani in "Necessary Roughness"
There are so many more...
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Commenting on the attractiveness or even "hotness" of, say, Monica Bellucci or Channing Tatum does not indicate someone who believes they are actually having a relationship with that person. It's not exactly a high level of engagement. It's just saying, okay, hey, that person's hot. Yes, we're superficial beings, sometimes. Oh Noes. Call the superficiality po-po.
I don't know about this place sometimes. Half the time I think a lot of people here are engaged in some deep level performance art, or Andy Kaufman-esque postmodern put on.
Because, really. Come on.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)if the ancient Greeks had cameras, it would have saved them a lot of time putting out fantasy images instead of paintings and statues.
We like eye candy. Always have, and it's no big deal.
My take is simply to move the fantasy over into fiction, where it always played a huge part anyway. And, fiction has the major advantage of the object of your desire being custom made with no need for plastic surgeons or publicists.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Some folks seem to be perpetually operating under the misplaced assumption that they're "unpacking" something more profound than the knobbly bits of their own baloney.
I agree about the no big deal part.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)All that blather and bile that you can't spew at the office comes here.
RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)Told you I would never live it down.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Hey, he's in there with Monica Bellucci, that's not bad.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Good choices on your post btw, for me anyone i date has to fit very strict parameters. Got to have a good job or have independent means of support, hwp, ddf, own home, own transport, not be batshit crazy unless its outweighed by hotness. Also important that they have their own life and dont just cling onto mine.
RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)Stalking is psycho. My husband sometimes reads my posts here and has no problem with them...we're honest with each other and I make no bones about who I find attractive.
We watched the James Franco roast last night and laughed our asses off...I think the dude is so hot, smart and creative and I know my husband likes his acting....especially in Pineapple Express.
Honestly, I would feel creepy if I didn't have these feelings as I would consider myself an abnormal stiff.
Not trying to fight....just trying to explain my perspective.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)Just a slightly different point of view.
And I'm not saying that should I watch "Modern Family," any thoughts I might have about Sofia Vergara are limited to her role in the show.
Not at all.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)Actors, actresses and musicians....it's really the characters we see that we fall for I think.
I'd have to think about it a bit, but I agree with Beckett from "Castle". I enjoyed the little shocking bits she would drop on Castle to drive him nuts. Well, until they did it, of course.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I've floated around the outskirts of both enough to know that--- and to know it's not something I really want.