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Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
Thu Aug 8, 2013, 09:37 PM Aug 2013

Are you afraid is something, and if you admitted it ...

... Would you be concerned that it would make you appear weak? Or somehow "less of a man"? (Not that I buy into that stereotype personally).

I have a few. I freely admit to a couple of them, fear of heights so strong I won't go up a ladder more than 2 steps. And a big one, now having had a "mental health crisis" and diagnosis, I am really afraid that it could somehow be used against me in some sense some day.

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Are you afraid is something, and if you admitted it ... (Original Post) Denninmi Aug 2013 OP
I am scared of waterbugs. hrmjustin Aug 2013 #1
Palmetto bugs (that's Florida for bug-ass roaches) Eleanors38 Aug 2013 #9
I'm afraid of losing my job. Inkfreak Aug 2013 #2
I think to some degree, everyone with a job is afraid of losing it, and everyone without a job nomorenomore08 Aug 2013 #12
Nothing wrong with fear Gore1FL Aug 2013 #3
Remember this movie? rrneck Aug 2013 #4
I have an almost crippling fear of heights.... opiate69 Aug 2013 #5
dinosaurs and getting fat, wierd ones but thats why they are irrational loli phabay Aug 2013 #6
I am not afraid of losing my job, I am afraid of failing at it. lumberjack_jeff Aug 2013 #7
Afraid of losing family members; most are old, now. Eleanors38 Aug 2013 #8
Death and pain. eom millennialmax Aug 2013 #10
Hell no... MicaelS Aug 2013 #11
I'm afraid of being (permanently) alone. Though on the other hand, I *need* a certain amount nomorenomore08 Aug 2013 #13
It isn't a catch-22. Behind the Aegis Aug 2013 #15
You may be right. Sometimes I feel like I've sat back and let things happen too much. nomorenomore08 Aug 2013 #17
I am afraid of all kinds of things. Behind the Aegis Aug 2013 #14
So sorry for that. Denninmi Aug 2013 #16
Cockroaches freak me out davidpdx Aug 2013 #18
 

Eleanors38

(18,318 posts)
9. Palmetto bugs (that's Florida for bug-ass roaches)
Sun Aug 11, 2013, 09:09 AM
Aug 2013

"In case of infestation, break glass, remove revolver."

Inkfreak

(1,695 posts)
2. I'm afraid of losing my job.
Thu Aug 8, 2013, 10:13 PM
Aug 2013

And not finding another one on par with this one. I don't want to start over.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
12. I think to some degree, everyone with a job is afraid of losing it, and everyone without a job
Tue Aug 13, 2013, 03:11 AM
Aug 2013

is afraid they'll never find one. Sign of the times, sadly.

Gore1FL

(21,825 posts)
3. Nothing wrong with fear
Thu Aug 8, 2013, 10:22 PM
Aug 2013

We evolved with it. It's a necessity of survival. I'd be more concerned of the person who feared nothing.

rrneck

(17,671 posts)
4. Remember this movie?
Fri Aug 9, 2013, 12:20 AM
Aug 2013


I don't like water. I can't swim worth a damn, so water makes me nervous. That and the fact that where I come from even in water where swimming isn't necessary there might be a water moccasin in there the size of your leg.
 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
5. I have an almost crippling fear of heights....
Fri Aug 9, 2013, 10:26 AM
Aug 2013

It usedto bother me, but after 44 years, I now just accept it and get on with life.

 

loli phabay

(5,580 posts)
6. dinosaurs and getting fat, wierd ones but thats why they are irrational
Fri Aug 9, 2013, 11:04 AM
Aug 2013

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Hate dinosaurs they freak me out and not keen on fat people probuably why i have the fears.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
7. I am not afraid of losing my job, I am afraid of failing at it.
Fri Aug 9, 2013, 11:28 AM
Aug 2013

The other stuff?

I have been accused of being an asshole, well I'm belligerent toward my own weaknesses too. Fear isn't going to keep me down here on the ground. I might not be as graceful up on the roof as some of my friends... but fuck it, bones heal.

 

Eleanors38

(18,318 posts)
8. Afraid of losing family members; most are old, now.
Sun Aug 11, 2013, 09:04 AM
Aug 2013

Not sure of the need for "admission," except for some cathartic value. I think there are many fears where one doesn't need to admit to them.

MicaelS

(8,747 posts)
11. Hell no...
Mon Aug 12, 2013, 11:10 AM
Aug 2013

I don't like loud buzzing things flying around my head.

I once freaked so bad out at a Hawk Moth flying around my head at night, I nearly jumped off a second story balcony.

I don't like Hummingbirds flying to close to me without me knowing it.

No idea why, I just don't like it.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
13. I'm afraid of being (permanently) alone. Though on the other hand, I *need* a certain amount
Tue Aug 13, 2013, 03:13 AM
Aug 2013

of "alone time." Kind of a Catch-22 in a way, when I think about it...

Behind the Aegis

(54,840 posts)
15. It isn't a catch-22.
Tue Aug 13, 2013, 03:19 AM
Aug 2013

I understand what you are saying because prior to meeting my partner, it was a fear of mine...sort of. I like being by myself. But, there is also a difference between being "alone" and being "lonely." I can say, as corny and trite as it, stop looking. Let love look for you!

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
17. You may be right. Sometimes I feel like I've sat back and let things happen too much.
Tue Aug 13, 2013, 05:15 AM
Aug 2013

But at this point it's about all I can do, in practical terms.

Behind the Aegis

(54,840 posts)
14. I am afraid of all kinds of things.
Tue Aug 13, 2013, 03:16 AM
Aug 2013

I try not to let it rule me, though. I am afraid to even kiss my partner in public for fear of what could happen to us. Do you have any idea how sad it is when we go to an airport and everyone is kissing their loved one "good-bye" and we have to "air kiss" when no one is looking?! I am also afraid of being 'useless' as I haven't had a job in ten years. My sense of purpose was rocked.

davidpdx

(22,000 posts)
18. Cockroaches freak me out
Wed Aug 14, 2013, 04:03 AM
Aug 2013

I lived in a dorm in college that was infested with them. Even when there is a commercial for a bug spray with cockroaches it just makes me freak.

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