"Marital aid addiction" and loss of performance and drive with real men
After considering the argument that men viewing porn can make it difficult for them to "function" with real women, I spent some time thinking about it.
I suppose the argument is probably an old one since masturbation has always been a competitor for sex with one's partner, but with todays ease of availability of porn, it is probably exacerbated somewhat.
Still, breaking down the issue, I see it as involving A) the "ease" of self-stimulation vs. the "bother" of initiating sex and B) the competition between the visual presence of women with perfect bodies doing really raunchy things vs. the imperfections of the real woman who may be less inclined...
After giving it some thought, I had to conclude that this is a problem/issue that must arise with women's use of penis substitutes, namely vibrators as well. I mean, if you are going to make the argument that masturbating to porn is harmful to one's sex drive with a real person and all their imperfections, you must also admit that the same would be true for a woman that uses a large rapidly vibrating "marital aid".
Both are objects for self-stimulation that obviate the need for reaching out for a human partner. It seems intellectually dishonest to rail against one instance of it and not the other.
Personally, I think both are fine with reasonable limits but I wanted to put that out there.
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I know it`s probably silly of me, but for some reason I would expect a magazine called "Psychology Today" to actually publish articles written by people who, you know... actually hold degrees in Psych... and not homophobic right-wing former corporate attorneys.
Color me shocked!!
of women who believe that they somehow "deserve" this kind of stimulation, that it is their God-Given Right to decide for themselves, even, to get pleasure from buzzing bits of plastic- the nerve! The idea that they can participate in these sorts of categorically objectifying self-pleasuring experiences, undoubtedly altering their brains with endorphin erotoxin oxycontin scary sounding words undenyiably altering their psyches to turn them into plastic-fetishists with addicted sexual programming.... that any time they feel they "need" or "want" an orgasm they demand- DEMAND! the 'right' to reach into the nightstand and switch on ol' Buzz Lightrabbit...
Really, I think a serious social critique has to include the messages which are being sent to young women, telling them they can expect the right to march into a Good Vibrations store, pick up a $40 vibrator, and they don't need to do anything else, they can DEMAND yes DEMAND sexual pleasure because they have an ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY that tells them they are ENTITLED to a vibrating phallic-shaped object ANY DAMN TIME THEY WANT!
Caaaaaanyooooooooo CAAAANNYOOOOOUUUUUU belieeeeeeve the ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY???????????
p.s. this is 
in case of impairment
So Much Hate. 
So Much Harm.
I'm hard to phase.
I still can't believe someone alerted on that post. 
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