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Related: About this forumIs the small penis meme offensive to you?
What do you think when a poster on DU accuses a gun owner, SUV owner, a guy with a huge BBQ grill.....whatever.....of overcompensating for a small penis? Should it be seen as a sexist attack?
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)but, yeah it is annoying and I think it is sexist.
4th law of robotics
(6,801 posts)at least in part because it entirely objectifies men (your value is based on your penis, if it's small you are worthless, that is the basis of the insult) and is apparently entirely acceptable on here.
Another part is that it is a blatant double standard: reference the appearance of a woman's vagina as an insult and oh boy you'll get banned so fast on here.
Scuba
(53,475 posts)Seriously, it's a humorous euphemism for males suffering from poor feelings of self-worth.
It might be offensive to guys with little dicks; if so, I say let them come forward.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)if a fraction of the stuff that gets called misogyny around here actually is, then this is misandry.
ZenLefty
(20,924 posts)And I have a HUUUUGE barbecue grill.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)....doesn't offend me.....I've never purchased anything abnormally big, so it will never apply to me....I don't think....but it is a sexist comment/insult. There's really no way around that.
SnohoDem
(1,036 posts)but it is sexist.
Why should it be assumed that a man owning something of which a poster does not approve means that the man is compensating for something? Is it assumed that women who own such items are compensating for something?
I often see people who own big expensive stupid shit that they don't need as the victims of advertising or of a culture that tells them that when they have that shit they have 'arrived'.
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Major Nikon
(36,917 posts)It might have been funny the first time you hear it, but after that it's just nothing more than a worn out cliche that people use to keep themselves from actually having to think.
It absolutely is sexist and is a classic example of sexism.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Do you know where I could purchase such an item?
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)If a man claimed that a woman wore makeup or high heels to compensate for a large, loose vagina, it would clearly be offensive and sexist.
MrSlayer
(22,143 posts)It's really, really hard to offend me. If it makes people feel better to say something that dumb then they're welcome to it.
As far as being sexist, yeah it is but I still really don't care. It doesn't apply to me so I just ignore it. No need to complain over something so silly.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)yakking on about "-isms".
I vote with the "That's too silly to be offensive" crowd and go along some corollary about the annoyance of walking on eggshells at the mere hint of mentioning anything about women, particularly their appearance or ladyparts, that doesn't pass muster with the harridan contingent lest the accusation of SEXIST, MISOGYNIST PIG be tossed about.
Sometimes a wisecrack is just a wisecrack. Get over it.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Anyone who explains someone's antisocial acts by "joking" that it's a result of having a small penis is an idiot - if for no other reason than the antisocial acts themselves are the only relevant reflection on the person in question.
a) "Wow, that Charles Manson is a bad guy! Did you see his tatoo?"
b) "He must have a small penis."
a & b) "hahahah."
A and B are both idiots. Everything they might subsequently say can safely should be discarded.
Sexist?
Try this; make a similar "joke" about the size of Ann Coulter's vagina being explanatory of her behavior. DU will have no problem identifying the sexism then.
4th law of robotics
(6,801 posts)and see if it is offensive then is a false comparison.
Because it ignores the context of those comments (ie "within the patriarchy" .
Or in other words it's a fancy way of saying "it's ok when *we* do it".
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)One can't believe that "it's okay when we do it", no matter how many fancy words are used, and not be a sexist.
4th law of robotics
(6,801 posts)and believe all men to be guilty of at least pre-rape so I think they're a lost cause.
ElboRuum
(4,717 posts)...but no it really isn't that offensive to me.