Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search
6 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
How is this fair? (Original Post) Cayenne Jun 2015 OP
So John Doe was intoxicated... Bonobo Jun 2015 #1
It was a BJ Cayenne Jun 2015 #2
I know a guy who is now a registered sex offender for doing exactly what she admits to doing. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2016 #6
Evidenly that only works one way Major Nikon Jun 2015 #3
Sickening Bwprimal1 Feb 2016 #4
It's not fair. It's the law. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2016 #5

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
1. So John Doe was intoxicated...
Sat Jun 20, 2015, 01:06 AM
Jun 2015

So at the point she performed oral sex on him, wasn't that "rape" since he couldn't give consent?

Cayenne

(480 posts)
2. It was a BJ
Sat Jun 20, 2015, 07:08 AM
Jun 2015

What isn't clear is was he unconscious or blotto at the time. If he was blotto wouldn't whiskey dick be an issue?

Seems like she was in control the whole time which seems to make this unfair. Amherst is unwilling to reconsider to.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
6. I know a guy who is now a registered sex offender for doing exactly what she admits to doing.
Tue Feb 9, 2016, 08:21 PM
Feb 2016

Last edited Tue Feb 9, 2016, 11:48 PM - Edit history (1)

i.e. Performing oral sex to a guy who wasn't able to give consent.

It isn't so much that our culture can't imagine men as victims, as that it can't imagine women as perpetrators.

Major Nikon

(36,900 posts)
3. Evidenly that only works one way
Sat Jun 20, 2015, 01:00 PM
Jun 2015

Like Germaine Greer says, if the dude gets an erection, it can't be rape.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
5. It's not fair. It's the law.
Tue Feb 9, 2016, 08:16 PM
Feb 2016

The US DOJ expects colleges to exploit and persecute young men exactly as they have done here.

In the lawsuit, Stern argues that the texts contain evidence that make it clear the sexual encounter with Doe was consensual and initiated by Jones; that she deliberately misled the college’s investigator and the hearing board; that she was motivated to make the allegations so her roommate would not blame her for what happened; and that Doe, who was incapacitated that night, is the real victim in the case.

In the texts, which extend over several hours, Jones and the dorm counselor exchanged the following messages:

Jones: “Ohmygod, I jus[sic] did something so [expletive] stupid.”

Counselor: “What did you do?”

Jones responded that she had sex with Doe. Then she expressed concern that her roommate would find out, noting that her roommate’s friends had witnessed the start of the encounter.

The counselor’s recommendation was to blame Doe for the encounter. Her reply: “But I mean [roommate] knows me it’s pretty obvi I wasn’t an innocent bystander.’’

As she was texting with the counselor, Jones was also texting another male classmate to come to her room: “I mean I happen to have my room to myself this weekend if you wanted to come over and entertain me.”

Hours later, Jones had another text exchange with the counselor that indicated she and that classmate had sex after hours of conversation.

In an affidavit he signed in April 2014, the classmate, who turned over his text messages to Doe early last year, said he had sex that February night with Jones, who was friendly and flirtatious, and did not appear “anxious, stressed, depressed or otherwise in distress.’’


This is not a miscarriage of justice, it's policy. When I suggest the policy should change, I'm called an MRA.

If that's the definition, perhaps it shouldn't be such an insult.
Latest Discussions»Retired Forums»Men's Group»How is this fair?