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Related: About this forumRAINN rejects "rape culture"
http://www.rainn.org/news-room/rainn-urges-white-house-task-force-to-overhaul-colleges-treatment-of-rapeIn 16 pages of recommendations, RAINN urged the task focus to remain focused on the true cause of the problem. In the last few years, there has been an unfortunate trend towards blaming rape culture for the extensive problem of sexual violence on campuses. While it is helpful to point out the systemic barriers to addressing the problem, it is important to not lose sight of a simple fact: Rape is caused not by cultural factors but by the conscious decisions, of a small percentage of the community, to commit a violent crime, said the letter to the task force from RAINNs president, Scott Berkowitz, and vice president for public policy, Rebecca OConnor.
kjones
(1,059 posts)I have to half-disagree with "Rape is caused not by cultural factors...".
First off, people are (short of serious mental defects) responsible for what they do.
We have brains, and whether or not it looks like it, we do all use them. So
ultimately, yes, I agree, "...but by the conscious decisions...".
However, there are definitely aspects of American culture that, while not causing
rape, may facilitate it or enhance it's likelihood. I think the connection between drinking
and waking up in a myriad of sorry conditions is well established, and that is an action
that runs pretty deep in American culture. (Drinking, we may not get credit for the game,
but we took it pro.)
I don't even know why I said this anymore, not even a huge point, and not likely to
be well received, but whatever. I'm an anthropologist, I can't help myself.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)1) 90% of college rapes are committed by 3% of the men.
2) rape victimization rates are about 60% less they were twenty years ago.
3) only murder is more heavily punished. It's not normalized behavior.
4) the purpose of "rape culture" rhetoric is to assign collective guilt, thus ameliorating the culpability of the guilty.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Bingo. And in addition to ameliorating the culpability of the guilty it provides a lucrative revenue stream for bloggers, talking heads, fundamentalist ideologues and other assorted hogs with two feet in the trough. It's a perfect cultural casus belli.
Doctor_J
(36,392 posts)And it would surprise me if those 3% were particularly drinky.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)kjones
(1,059 posts)kjones
(1,059 posts)I'm not saying "rape culture," but culture affects everything.
I mean, the most basic way culture and rape interact is that
it is culture which defines what rape is. In America, there is
statutory rape, in other countries, there isn't. Culture defines
what is right or wrong.
Most of us continue to follow the rules of our culture, some
of us don't. In this case, those that don't are rapist. Contrary
to "rape culture," those that rape are counter to the culture.
If anything, it's one more thing to add to your list.
Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)Exultant Democracy
(6,595 posts)but on know stats 101 might also tell me that crime across the board including rape has been plummeting for the last 30 years to the lowest levels recorded in human history by an order of magnitude..
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)The problem, as I see it, is that by and large the majority of men who aren't sexual predators don't do enough to discourage those who are. Just my opinion though.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Would that be an example of a rape culture or an example that rape is NOT an accepted part of the culture?
Or does that depend on what POV is, your agenda, your bias, your personal baggage? All of the above? None?
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)I'm not saying rape is an accepted part of our culture, necessarily - it is a serious criminal offense after all, even if often inadequately prosecuted or punished - but a lot of people do tend to give rapists too much leeway, e.g. by focusing more on the victim's personal life than the perpetrator's crime, or by assuming that a high percentage of accusations are false when there's no real evidence of that.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)undergraduate population: < 5000.
Try reading your link.
Steubenville.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Another example would be SOME fraternities and sports clubs.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Bonobo
(29,257 posts)What can I say? There are frats and stuff that really do represent a rape culture but you want me to say that the entire culture is a especially culture.
I do jot agree and I don't see what is pathetic about recognizing the truth that certain pockets of culture are absolutely appalling while also recognizing that most people and mini cultures revile rape?
Which of is is being realistic and which is jabbing for points?
kjones
(1,059 posts)I've never encouraged anyone to rape anyone, and I've
definitely never witnessed (and thus had opportunity to
prevent) a rape. What more is there to do?
There are certain things that make people unwilling to
help, the bystander effect for example, however, these
are mental effects shared by men and women.
Even if one chose to follow the line of reasoning of
"rape culture," culture implicates all of us (men and
women). If America had a rape culture, it would be
on all of us.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)I'm not part of it, and yet, impossibly according to you, it exists.
kjones
(1,059 posts)So I guess you think you are the "pulse of the nation" or something?
Take it back to basics. Way back in high school, there were
(jock, nerd, goth, whatever), but whatever groups you weren't
a part of didn't stop existing just because you weren't a part of
them.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)of them." Exactly. Just because your (or my) group of friends is nothing like the jocks from Steubenville, doesn't mean that said jocks don't have a pernicious effect on society as a whole, or that they don't reflect larger cultural pathologies.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)Those who commit rape, often repeatedly, don't have a sign around their necks, saying: "Hi. I'm a Rapist" for easy I.D.; after all, they are often serial for a reason.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)Usually you have to get to know people, find out a bit about their beliefs and attitudes, before their more problematic traits become apparent, and even then not necessarily in an obvious way. The important part is having the guts to tell somebody when they're wrong, even if that person is a close friend.
Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)and even those I don't know well, and there is little to go on. I can conjure and speculate, but not much else. In this world, the fuck-ups are often the usual suspects who are loud enough about it to drive others away, and the very few who quietly go about their business until they strike.
At my "hangout," I just don't see the red flags. One of my friends, a quiet, beautiful woman, got a TRO on someone who also hung out there, because he was stalking her. She didn't tell me who it was, and I didn't ask. But there were no "clues" to go on. Probably a usual suspect of the quiet variety. Do you know the old (probably obsolete) expression cops had for these kind? "Rape artists."
cui bono
(19,926 posts)It clearly says: "While it is helpful to point out the systemic barriers to addressing the problem,", how is that rejecting it?
I know.. hard to see, since it was only, ya know... bolded and all.
cui bono
(19,926 posts)doesn't sound like a rejection at all. If it were a rejection they would say it doesn't exist
Of course rape culture doesn't literally make someone rape someone else. The culture exists that makes it easier to go forward with it for those who are so inclined, it makes it harder for victims to come forward, it makes it harder to prosecute rape and it makes it easier for young men to not understand when something actually is rape.
It's really reaching to think that article says RAINN rejects the idea of rape culture. It says no such thing.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)What I do NOT understand is how my saying that can be conflated with minimizing rape.
To me it is as clear as day that are twisted micro cultures where rape and preying on women is accepted.
Rather than pretending that the entire US or world culture is a "rape culture" as a whole, why not focus on where the problems actually reside?
Scoring points and creating enemies where they don't exist May make some people feel that they are fighting the good fight, but it is far closer to mental masturbstion than activism.
cui bono
(19,926 posts)or even every single social network. Just as racist culture doesn't mean every single person/social network.
But it does mean that it is systemic. There is a general attitude about rape that is different than all other crimes. So yes, let's focus on where the problems reside. Like the judicial system, the blaming of the victims, the attitude of young men who think raping a passed out female is not rape. Also teaching boys from when they are in high school and just beginning to date what it means to respect a woman and not think of her as an object to be conquered.
Look at the Republican Party. As a whole they think women are property to be told what they can and can not do with their bodies. How many men are influenced by that, and women too. That's horrible. So there you have half the country with that sort of mentality. That's a lot. So all their kids are being taught that mentality. (And all kinds of other weird attitudes towards sexuality but not any real sex education.) So it's an uphill battle, especially with the backlash against women's rights lately, to even just have women regarded as people, let alone with a voice of their own to say what can and can't be done to them and their bodies.
So when women are being treated as less than men, are having (mostly) men legislate what they can and can not do with their bodies, are actually legislating that a woman who has been raped has to be vaginally probed by a doctor, and forcing women to have ultrasounds and being forced to look at them even if they're pregnant because of rape, well that all adds up to women being looked at as less than a man and as an object that men are allowed to control and do with what they please.
Of course I'm not saying it is a spoken idea, but it is a subtext that exists in our society that permeates the consciousness so that then you get people questioning the victim of rape to the point where they don't even want to report it lest they be dragged over the coals about it again, after they already feel completely violated and humiliated.
What I don't understand is why men feel such a strong need to invalidate the idea of rape culture. What difference does it make to you? Why not believe women when they say this is how they feel? We are the ones who live with it every day of our lives. Would you argue with a minority and tell them racism just doesn't exist?
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)I emphatically do NOT deny that there are pockets where rape culture thrives just as there are pockets where a dying conviction for equal rights exist.
It's nothing but a semantic issue but the way things are said also matters. There ARE systemic problems and that is one of the reasons we are all Dems. I assume we all support equal pay, equal rights, equal protections. However it doesn't mean that we have to agree with how everything is framed.
cui bono
(19,926 posts)but when you say "racist culture" it means it's systemic, which it is. It's not just simply that there are some racists. Minorities are profiled, suspected more often, arrested more often, convicted more often even for crimes that more whites commit. And in many more areas than just crime. Affluent minorities are accosted for shoplifting even when they've paid for the item simply because it is ingrained subconsciously that they can't afford the item. I'm sure though that if you asked the store personnel who stopped them they do not consider themselves a racist.
Same idea with rape culture. Like I said, it's a subtext that permeates the subconscious.
I think an analogy would be that bacteria causes the infection, but the surroundings that allowed that bacteria to thrive is the "culture". So yeah, the individuals are the ones who actually rape, but the rape culture is what allows it to happen and be gotten away with and have far to lenient sentences way more than should happen.
I'm glad "we all support equal pay, equal rights, equal protections."
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)That you eviscerated me with that reply.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)Major Nikon
(36,911 posts)Good luck finding consistent definitions for any of them, let alone all of the ones you are describing. Some of the feminist groups who promoted the first use of the term have a very different definition of rape than I do, let alone whatever culture propagates it.
"Rape culture" means whatever whoever is using the term wants it to mean. It's also an intellectual shortcut which allows whoever is using the term to define things as contributory to "rape culture" without much, if any, relationship to cause and effect. As far as I can tell the term seems to introduce far more problems than it could ever hope to solve and just doesn't seem to have much academic value. Furthermore items some throw into the "rape culture" bin have grown exponentially while the actual problem of rape has shrunk significantly, which also leads one to wonder what value the term really has.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)....we live in a "murder culture".
A lot of murder going on out there, more than most civilized nations.
Every show is a crime show on TV.
Lawyers always trying to get murderers off or reduced sentences with "mitigating circumstances".
Have you ever seen anyone use that term here?
Major Nikon
(36,911 posts)With little or no causual data it really amounts to no more than speculation about cause and effect and I'm not convinced it actually accomplishes anything substanative.
Muder, rape, and other violent crimes are decreasing significantly over the same time period alleged "cultural" causes are widely propagating. This tells me those who further cultural contribution arguments either have it exactly backwards or they have a lot of explaining to do.
I just think time would be better spent focusing on things that actually do have a causual relationship and a meaningful hope of mitigation rather than things that don't.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)The issue isn't "what is rape culture?", because as you observe, it can be any list of bad things you want to throw at it; none of which are accompanied with any suggestions over what to do about it.
In fact many of the items on the list are also positively correlated with the dramatic decline in victimization.
One of the issues on most lists is the increase in defensive living skill training targeted at young women ("teach boys to not rape instead of teaching girls to avoid it" . I don't know if that awareness and education is a significant reason for the huge increase in safety, but I find it hard to believe that it's to blame for the remaining victimizations.
Major Nikon
(36,911 posts)The question is whether it's productive or not. When those who are promoting the idea seem to have very little interest in cause and effect, it's hard to imagine how it's productive. For many it seems more like a way to promote anti-male bias sold under a thin veil of good intention.
lumberjack_jeff
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