dealing with attention seeking behavior in others
rule 1: don't argue an emotional issue with logic. it can't be done so just don't. you will go nuts trying.
rule 2: if an issue can't be clearly defined and mapped in clear and verifiable terms, it's based on feelings and emotions. see rule 1.
rule 3: status seekers, in an attempt to feel connected to a specific group, will subvert their own biological and social imperatives in an attempt to short circuit normative social processes. it is a short term strategy that can never succeed. don't engage those that practice this self-destructive behavior.
rule 4: emotional issues aren't issues. they are feelings. feelings are a biochemical reward circuit that is either being withdrawn or stimulated and will cause seriously crazy (as an outhouse mouse) behavior and reactions. it's brain chemistry, nothing more.
rule 5: feelings can and often betray you and in understanding that, you can reflect on your choices better if you have the cognitive and emotional capacity to discern reality from feelings. if you can't, you are well and truly fucked and prone to manipulation. learn emotional control and the assessment of others ability to control their emotions. your survival may depend on it.
rule 6: when feelings become truth, the truth is irrelevant and ceases to exist. only the feelings and emotions exist.
as men, having emotions and "patriarchy" aren't the issue at all, its not getting drawn into emotional interchanges and exercising supreme emotional control over your actions that is key. as a taoist, i offer this quote:
“He who knows does not speak; he who speaks does not know.”
― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
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