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sheshe2

(87,272 posts)
Wed Jan 1, 2014, 08:51 PM Jan 2014

Bring on the wussification!

Recently Media Matters demonstrated how Fox News has been obsessed with the wussification of America. What I hear from that is a fear and rejection of all of the things that have traditionally been defined as feminine....nurturing, compassion, empathy. But lets be honest, its not just Fox News. Take a look at the commentary from both the left and right critiquing President Obama and you'll hear the constant extortions to "man up, grow some balls, etc." Its still true in this day and age that the worst insult to a man is to be compared to a girl.

Take a look at this trailer from a recent documentary titled The Mask You Live In to see the impact this has on boys.



If we are ever going to free ourselves of the authoritarian impulses that rely on fear and oppression, we are going to have to free our boys from the expectation that their manhood is something they have to prove. Our human potential for nurturing, compassion and empathy are no more "feminine" than strength, courage, and toughness are "masculine."

Here's Riane Eisler explaining why that is so important.



I believe that the reason Fox News is concerned about wussification and so many political pundits are calling on President Obama to "man up" is that what it means to be a man or woman is in the process of changing and that is threatening whole belief systems that are built on these stereotypes. In many ways feminism has begun the process of freeing women from them, but we've lagged in understanding what that means for men.

And so now we have a leader of the free world who regularly challenges us to tackle the empathy deficit, is not afraid to lead from behind, and is completely comfortable with the use of soft power. In other words, he has no desire or need to prove his manhood to anyone. People entrenched in the old patterns and stereotypes are terribly uncomfortable with that and tend to get surprised when he also has the courage and strength to go after Osama bin Laden or just say "no" to Republicans about negotiating on the debt ceiling.
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Cha

(305,137 posts)
1. Thanks she.. very important issue for so many young boys to men..
Wed Jan 1, 2014, 09:32 PM
Jan 2014

A reminder of another reason how fortunate we are to have a leader and role model like this President.

"While we are culturally struggling with this kind of change, President Obama is providing a wonderful example to young men who are able to envision a world where boys don't have anything to prove anymore...one where it is ok to let someone touch their soul."

Props to smartypants and her brilliant abiding perceptions.

sheshe2

(87,272 posts)
2. I wanted to work that last line in...
Wed Jan 1, 2014, 09:55 PM
Jan 2014

Yet had to stick to the 4 paragraph rule. Thanks for adding it, Cha.

"it is ok to let someone touch their soul."

Then there is this, all these attributes describe both sexes. We are stronger as individuals by having them all.

"Our human potential for nurturing, compassion and empathy are no more "feminine" than strength, courage, and toughness are "masculine."

Happy New Year, Cha~

Cha

(305,137 posts)
4. Precisely, she~
Wed Jan 1, 2014, 10:17 PM
Jan 2014
"Our human potential for nurturing, compassion and empathy are no more "feminine" than strength, courage, and toughness are "masculine."

I'll toast to that and a HAPPY HEALTHY NEW YEAR to You, sheshe!





sheshe2

(87,272 posts)
6. Oh what a sweet picture, a New Years Baby! Beautiful~
Wed Jan 1, 2014, 10:37 PM
Jan 2014

"Our human potential for nurturing, compassion and empathy are no more "feminine" than strength, courage, and toughness are "masculine."

The right way to raise your child~ not separate, but equal.



Happy New Year, Cha.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
3. Yet many men even here on DU will tell you to "calm down" when women are constantly faced
Wed Jan 1, 2014, 10:14 PM
Jan 2014

with attacks on their rights to own their own bodies. Its also the constant constant constant whisper of misogyny like what is mentioned here in this thread. Women get to bear the brunt of this insult that men are soooo constantly trying to bash each other about the heads with, accusing each other of being too much like a "woman"! God forbid that.....the horror that it is....this being womanlike....why it's the worst thing you could possibly be obviously! No one is supposed to take offense at that....nosiree bob!

sheshe2

(87,272 posts)
5. So true VR,
Wed Jan 1, 2014, 10:28 PM
Jan 2014
Our human potential for nurturing, compassion and empathy are no more "feminine" than strength, courage, and toughness are "masculine."

What could possibly be so wrong for a person, not just a male or female, to be all of the above. To possess all those qualities. It makes us human.
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