North Carolina
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Under amended legislation, 8th graders will still be able to wed in North Carolina, but not buy a lottery ticket or work with commercial ovensDr. Judy Wiegand was only 13 years old when her mother accompanied her to get married to the 16-year-old father of her unborn child in Virginia.
Wiegand, originally from Kentucky, told Policy Watch that she was sexually assaulted when she was 13. She had a crush on a boy who asked her to have sex. Wiegand didnt consent, but she didnt resist, either. She simply didnt know what sex was or what the repercussions were. Her family had never taught her about puberty, boys and sex.
Wiegand said her parents felt pressured by the church and other community members for her to marry the boy. I dont blame my parents, said Wiegand, who testified before the Kentucky legislature in 2018, which then raised the minimum age to 17 with parental consent. I blame the community and the communitys way of thinking.
Thats why she decided to submit her testimony to the North Carolina Senate Judiciary Committee last week in support of a bill (Senate Bill 35) that originally raised the minimum age for marriage from 14 to 18 years old. However, several key lawmakers (none of whom ever heard Wiegands testimony read in committee thanks to a last minute decision to limit witness testimony on the bill to two minutes each) suddenly gutted key provisions aimed at raising the minimum legal age. Instead, the amended bill would still allow teens as young as 14 to obtain a marriage license as long as they were marrying someone no more than four years older. The bill passed the committee.
Read more: http://www.ncpolicywatch.com/2021/05/05/advocates-say-senate-leader-phil-berger-is-torpedoing-effort-to-end-child-marriage/
Mike Nelson
(10,285 posts)... my mom was much older at 16, but still a kid. My father was 19. They lasted 3 years, but parted friends. They really did not know they were not "in love" until much later. This girl, at 13, is too young to make this decision on her own. Eons ago, people mated as soon as "the parts" worked, but times change... Government, laws, and education are important - when we make laws as a community, people have to follow them. This law raises the age to marry, from 14 to 18. To me, 18-year-olds should be able to marry, but 14 is too young.
Haggard Celine
(17,027 posts)They just celebrated their 51st anniversary a few months ago. I still think they were too young to have gotten married, but they showed everyone that it can work. I don't think starting out so young would be as easy today, though. It's a lot harder for young people to get jobs that pay well these days, and there are a lot more temptations that can cause havoc in relationships.
Mike Nelson
(10,285 posts)... having a long-time relationship has become so admirable, to me, as I get older...
lonely bird
(1,885 posts)That being said, they did not show that it can work. They showed that THEY worked and likely worked very hard as all marriages take work.
jimfields33
(18,904 posts)And later revisit with 18. Nobody negotiates anymore.
Mike Nelson
(10,285 posts)... that's a good compromise, although each individual and situation is different.
Grokenstein
(5,832 posts)SergeStorms
(19,312 posts)No pictures of Trump rallies allowed.
ashredux
(2,698 posts)jaxexpat
(7,794 posts)There is no way any fourteen year old should NOT BE FULLY KNOWLEDGEABLE about sexuality, the rights of personal choice and reproduction.
That's a failure in the village. A village arrested by fear of the unspoken.
Someone's profiting from this criminal foolishness.