Suggestions requested... (UPDATE)

[babylonsister]

Last edited Sat Jul 8, 2023, 05:17 PM - Edit history (1)

Hi, DU.

My twin sister was admitted into a hospice in La Mesa yesterday. She is dying of bone cancer and she doesn't have much time left. I am going to try to get to CA next week but about passed out when I saw hotel prices for places around there. Over $200/night for a Motel 6??? Jeeze. Am wondering if anyone has any ideas for alternate housing? I will probably try to see if an Air B&B is any cheaper so suggestions for those would also be welcome.

I guess while I'm at it, we also need to rent a car. Any suggestions on what might be cheaper options besides the usual suspects?

I knew Cali was expensive, but every time I've been in the past decade it's been to visit with her in/on the Baja. I most definitely am suffering from sticker shock!

Thanks for any ideas!

UPDATE: I cannot believe I'm typing this, but my sister just died. Thank you all for caring.

[Easterncedar]

1. Any hospital-affiliated housing?

Some oncology programs offer places for family to stay.

I’m sorry for you and your sister. Hugs.

[babylonsister]

3. I have no idea but

will call this hospice tomorrow and ask. Thanks for that!

[MOMFUDSKI]

2. Are you able to

stay in her house?

[babylonsister]

4. No. She lives in

Rosarito, MX. Way too far and crossing that border is a bear without a resident pass.

[Phoenix61]

5. There are several hostels in the La Mesa area.

It’s nice to have the full kitchen and on-site washer/dryer access.

[babylonsister]

9. Another lead, thanks! nt

[sheshe2]

6. Call the social worker affiliated to your sisters case.

They can help that is what they are there for. They are not there solely for the patient, they are there for the family.

They were good and so helpful when I needed them while taking care of mom. I had been called to Federal jury duty, that is 18 months service, when it was just 2 of us doing home care for mom. It was solved immediately.

Bsis, so sorry to hear about your sis.

Love and hugs to you and yours.

Peace to you and yours.

[babylonsister]

10. She doesn't have a

social worker, her husband had been taking care of her until it got to be too much.

And thanks, she. We all have our crosses to bear, this is a big one.

[sheshe2]

14. If you have hospice, a social worker is assigned.

At least they do in MA. I had no clue until my sister told me.

[babylonsister]

15. She just got there last night.

She no longer texts or talks on phone, so don't know yet what's going on.

[sheshe2]

16. Hugs, Bsis,

[blm]

7. It's likely the hospice has nearby housing to accomodate family

of patients at affordable rates.

Holding you in my heart, babysis. 💗

[babylonsister]

11. I'll be calling in the morning.

And thanks, my friend.

[wryter2000]

8. Would you consider staying in her hospital room with her?

The medical center where I worked built a new hospital a few years ago. All the rooms are private, and all have a bed/couch for someone to stay with the patient. I don't know how many hospitals do that, but it's worth asking.

And calling the hospice or the social worker is a good idea. They may have other ideas for you. Wishing you strength at this difficult time and a peaceful passing for your sister.

BTW, DU has a bereavement group you can check out for support.

[babylonsister]

12. I could stay there, I think,

but I have my bf coming with me for support,to drive and because he offered. Plus, her hubby, son, daughter, might want to stay with her. Yes, I'll be calling hospice.

And thank you!

[wryter2000]

18. I'm so glad she'll have support from all those people

I hope everything will work out as good for you and her as it can.

[quaint]

13. Peace and strength.

[LoisB]

17. I am very sorry about your sister. I believe a social worker is assigned to everyone who is in

hospice care, hopefully that person has suggestions. May she cross peacefully. Hugs to you and your family.