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niyad

(132,440 posts)
Mon Jan 4, 2016, 10:38 PM Jan 2016

Toxic Culture 101: Understanding the Sexualization of Women (but, there is NO war on women!!)

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Toxic Culture 101: Understanding the Sexualization of Women


A year ago I decided to drive across the street from my office for lunch. I wanted to avoid the catcalls I’d endured the last time I had crossed this particular street, when a middle-aged man yelled from his red Chevy truck, “Ride my cock, baby!” I wondered what it would be like not to feel like a sexual object on display. But I also wondered whether I’d rather be the woman who gets whistled at or the one who doesn’t.

As a psychotherapist, I meet hundreds of women who struggle with their body image or sexuality. These struggles show up as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, body dysmorphic disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, reproductive concerns, parenting issues or relationship crises. I’ve also encountered increasing numbers of men dealing with relationship issues and loneliness.

And I know firsthand the discomfort of embodying what many people see as unattractive. As a Middle Eastern American, I don’t fit the Eurocentric model of beauty. When I was a young girl, I drew pictures only of blonde, blue-eyed princesses, perhaps in response to my blonde stepsister telling me that my “skin was the color of poop.” No matter how much I tried to dress myself up, I was still not white.

Now that I understand how common body-image struggles are, I’ve begun to wonder who is really sick—my clients or our culture? So, I spent the last year documenting pieces of the world around me, gathering evidence of a toxic cultural milieu. On my drive to work one day, this is what I saw:

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http://msmagazine.com/blog/2016/01/04/toxic-culture-101-understanding-the-sexualization-of-women/

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Toxic Culture 101: Understanding the Sexualization of Women (but, there is NO war on women!!) (Original Post) niyad Jan 2016 OP
and waiting for the usual in 3. . . 2. . . . 1. . . niyad Jan 2016 #1
the usual misogynists with mommy issues? Skittles Jan 2016 #3
completely agree niyad Jan 2016 #4
Wait.... there are people here who would defend someone yelling "Ride my cock, baby"? Nye Bevan Jan 2016 #5
yes, there are, and yes, it is. niyad Jan 2016 #6
You seem obliquely surprised. LanternWaste Jan 2016 #8
K&R Brickbat Jan 2016 #2
. . . niyad Jan 2016 #7

Skittles

(171,716 posts)
3. the usual misogynists with mommy issues?
Mon Jan 4, 2016, 10:52 PM
Jan 2016

Last edited Mon Jan 4, 2016, 11:56 PM - Edit history (1)

they can FUCK THEMSELVES

Nye Bevan

(25,406 posts)
5. Wait.... there are people here who would defend someone yelling "Ride my cock, baby"?
Mon Jan 4, 2016, 10:57 PM
Jan 2016

That's despicable.

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